Looks like you need a thick skin here on this board...try not to let it get to you. I think it's sexy and admirable that you want to learn more, it will no doubt improve the quality of your  encounters.  

While there is no "one size fits all" perfect sex (subjective to preferences) you can find a wealth of resources at amazon whether books, DVDs, & e-books. It's a good idea to look at the number of positive reviews when you locate your subject of interest  

It may be worth doing a search there by specific subject as opposed to sex in general. This will narrow your results and hopefully you will find the materials you seek.  

skills

each of us in this hobby has his own skill set..you perfect it over time..you also need some confidence in your skills..there are no instructional videos on that though..that you learn on your own..

Many of the gals have DVD's that are educational...or certainly can show you where to acquire them.  Ask a few if they will "help" you get better at the skills you are seeking.  You'd be amazed at how interested many will become in getting you more in tune.

The funny part is some here have suggested that you just figure it out.  But seriously many of those same guys have NO clue how to kiss, DATY or actually perform many sex acts.  The gals don't say anything...as they are paid to STFU and tell him what a "great lover" he is.

Find one that really interests you and have a blast learning.

FWIW there are some really good DVD's on how to properly DATY.  The gal that turned me on to that is someone I've now been seeing nearly 3 years.  Practice became a bi-weekly ritual...and I am a serious student  LOL