After being in this lifestyle for about 8 months I just thought I would offer a few tip  that I would make your encounter enjoyable for both you and the provider .Not in any order of significance:

Many have echoed these ideas, I just hope everyone new to the hobby will take them to heart.  It's what makes this all worthwhile.  

In my experience, the less said, the less emails, the less phone calls, the less chance for problems.
Sometimes it can't be helped, but going back and forth in emails is often looking for trouble. Keep them short and few. If the provider is a little chattier I might be tempted to say more, and usually follow their lead.

A lot of guys have been doing this over a decade.. Some for a few decades...

The Newbie board IS FAQs.   But newbies do ask them again & again.  Always nice to hear a lady's point of view.

Thanks for the feedback everyone has to star somewhere

Eight months experience is not really that long to be giving advice. So, I guess this is marketing.  

This post is not intended to be an advertisement. These are things I've experienced or have read other provider express some of my same views.

I'm open to corrective criticism maybe I'm missing something. What have I say to have some off y'all upset? These are just some of my simple observations.

Her advice wasn't aimed at someone with your vast experience but rather at someone just starting out. What she said was just good solid advice.

Leah's advice to newbies is spot on. TERs rules allow links to a providers website so she wasn't wrong there either, you don't have to have years of experience to contribute to the board

I also notice how the person before me posted your post is an ad and insinuated that since you are new with very little experience that they don't need your advice .... and you were sweet to him yet I make a comment to him about what he wrote and I need to mind my own business. well I guess it does make sense you should kiss ass where the money comes from right. Lol

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in the OP. They ask that you do not do that so that providers don't just come up with anything to start a post just so they can put there link in it. I have made that mistake before and my posy was pulled. providers can add their link to any reply but not the OP.

that is against ter rules and I think that is what some of the guys were referring to. Probably just a newbie mistake, I have made it myself.

Simply reading this entire thread is a learning experience. As newbie, here is what I learned:
1. Some providers actually care about helping us clients.  
2. Some of us clients, have no idea what we are doing and are grateful for the advice.
3. Some newbies actually have the audacity to think that they have a right to post on the board designed for them. How dare they!!!
4.Some not so new members think it is here job to stamp their approval on any advice given and take offense when not consulted first. The newbie board is clearly their domain to reign supreme.  
5. As a newbie, I am really enjoying this site!

The OP posted some decent info but she attached her website link. That is not allowed on an OP. (except for the ad board) It is only allowed on replies on discussion boards. (as Bri said)

generally good advice, though I do tend to wince a bit when providers go overboard in giving certain advice to clients (not talking about hygiene, respect, and discretion, as those are obvious no-brainers).
For the most part, the hobby is the way it is (nature of clients and providers), and both should learn to accept this with grace and learn best how to deal with these realities.  For providers, yes, find your comfort level and price, but don't bemoan that every gentleman doesn't always comport to your ideal or act as if he's fully digested every word from your site (that you spent so much time carefully composing so you wouldn't have to answer the same questions over and over).  Think of all the "stupid" questions that businesses get asked every day, yet the best of them still always respect their customers, often explaining with patience things that perhaps should be obvious.  And how do you react when you don't get that patience, but rather a snarky reply, say by a waiter or customer service rep?

Real Men WORK HARD and play harder!!!   If I'm meeting you after work, You'd better be okay with me being in the shower while you start thinkin' "Hey this one's actually kinda hot, for an OLD guy".  If it was work and happy hour then guess what?   Stinky and Drunk.  DO NOT DRINK AND DRIVE.  But If you get drunk get Driven!!!  Ladies, WHY don't you get in the shower with him and get him all squeaky clean !!!

Funny how informed comments involve too much time on our hands while empty WK comments on the same board are good clean fun. Lol.

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Funny to sound so naive after 18 reviews.

No wonder all the tool advice.

Always bites people in the ass

I am a newbie to TER, I joined some time ago, but never became a regular contributor straight away.  However, I'm not a newbie to chat boards in general, and as far as some of the responses to the OP go, I like how you worded yours, PS.  IMO, there is a right way and a wrong way to make a response indicating a mistake made in an OP.  In this case, a rule about posting a personal web site link in an OP when it isn't allowed here.  In that post, she stated she was only in the lifestyle for 8 months, I consider that a newbie.  Suddenly, someone who has a penchant for beating the obvious to death turns the response rather personal with "we don't need advice from you, blah, blah, blah, we've been doing this for decades, etc..."  He could just as well have worded things a little more diplomatically, since this is an "adult board" as he is so fond of pointing out.  It is indeed an adult board, so perhaps acting that way would be a better way to go at preserving civility?  Kudos to you for a well worded and civil response indicating the whole story.  Kudos to Leah Mitchell for what came across as excellent advice to those of us new to this site, and finally, to her detractors, grow up.  "Tough guy" troll types are a turn off to any board community.