I think you'll get a range of responses on this. To me, it sounds excessively nosey. A provider is a professional who is providing a service. An intimate service, yes, but ultimately a service. Would you call your dentist to find out if he likes disco music before making an appointment? Would you chat with your masseuse to find out if she has a college degree? A provider might take this kind of nosiness as a sign that you wouldn't make a good client because you wouldn't observe boundaries. It might come across as vaguely stalker-ish. There's plenty of time to get to know the personality of a provider, but generally you need to put your money down and meet first.

with her will be what she shows to the public..Read her website from beginning to end and you can find a lot about what she gives and expects from you..

Check out her faq section to see if she has answered any questions for others.

Some ladies have blogs in which they write about personal every day things

Most ladies are busy and will not have time to give you any extra attention..Read her reviews to see what others have written

Kisses Haley

without being a nuisance. The last several ladies that I have met, are ladies who are frequent posters on their local boards and/or the general board. Being active on a few of the boards here, you can get to know the ladies' personalities, likes, dislikes, and they can get to know you a bit also. I have made a couple of very good friends simply by doing a little long-distance electronic flirting.

Just think of the fun you can have by meeting a number of providers and doing your research in person. In fact, I'd wager that you are only going to learn about a provider's personality by meeting face to face (is there a pun in there somewhere?).

It sounds like you're probably looking for a GFE experience, and if you check the reviews carefully you can narrow your choices down quite a bit, especially with the extra information provided by buying a VIP membership.

Most girls will peg you for a time waster and start ignoring your emails if you try and contact them too much prior to a date.  Read the reviews here and do your research.  Your first appointment is going to be the real indicator of how much chemistry there is going to be.

developing their website and allowing their personality to show through when doing so. So, read her website. She will be impressed that you actually did so. There is nothing more impressive than a man who references my website content when we are on a date than a man that keeps asking questions about me that are clearly mentioned on my website! Good luck.

Which is not to say that I want to write novels back and forth, of course, but it is nice to get a "feel" for a person before meeting them. This is also my reasoning behind only offering extended dates (overnights/days/weekends) to gentlemen I've met before -- how uncomfortable would it be for either of us to have to end things early due to unexpected incompatibility?

Seconding what the above posters mentioned, a well-written website will hopefully give you some idea of what a lady's personality is like. Reviews, ideally, should offer similar insight -- they shouldn't just be a play-by-play, so to speak. Research is indeed your friend!

I've had many potential clients write me a brief letter of introduction prior to being screened or in addition to their screening info. This is something you may wish to do as well; it opens the door for more communication without coming across as pushy or nosy.

I do enjoy exchanging e -mails / chatting with people before meeting them .. but there is a fine line between getting to know someone and waisting time.  Also, ike one of the ladies said - I am more likely to engage in lenghty chats with someone I am going to see for extended period of time than with someone who is looking for one hour encounter.

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Lina

This is a lady who will go over the agreed upon time scheduled.  Many ladies get an incredible amount of email, and don't have time for multiple email exchanges.  Remember, they are called "providers" we are clients. Good luck

Probably not real easy to do without wasting a lot of her time I'd think, which could "strain the relationship" before it even starts.  As I understand it, they get a lot of "time wasters" who never give them a return on their time investment, or people just out to screw with them for fun (no pun intended).  It is a business, and unless you become a regular, she may not be much into multiple phone calls or emails before hand.  

An email about me and a discrete phone call(no specifics about services or donations, as I   already knew this from her reviews and website) went a long way for me to make myself comfortable enough to take the plunge on my first (only) provider.  I quickly determined during our phone call she could obviously carry a conversation (important for me, because I can't so much myself), and along with her website and reviews, I had all I needed to know to take the next step.

First time was a little awkward, obviously, but we got along great.  Conversation was good, we had a good time, and I found out what I needed to know to determine if I was going to continue with this person.  Just got back from a 2nd meeting with her, and it was as though we'd been long time friends.  Very easy going, not awkward, and a relaxing time.  Thoroughly enjoyable evening.

The only real way of knowing if there will be a "connection" I think is to do your due diligence beforehand, and then take the plunge and set a date.  If it don't work out, move on to your 2nd choice.  I pretty much went into our first meet fully knowing I may get unlucky and have to "write off" the donation and experience, and start looking again.  Fortunately for me, I didn't have to move on to a 2nd choice, and don't forsee doing so any time soon.



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