I've thought about it and have done some research; however, I need some advice.
In a nutshell, I only want to form 'relationships' with no more that 6 men that I'm compatible with per year. I'm prepared to go on no more than 3 complimentary dates, to assess compatibility, then if there is a mutual spark, negotiate terms. I understand this may on the face of it seem high risk/low reward, but right now, having run my own business for so long, I'd be glad to be wined and dined again and it would also help me rekindle my feminine ways again. I'm prepared for a time lag.
Has anyone had experience with this kind of provider scenario?
What you are considering is pretty common in the sugardaddy/arrangement area of this hobby. I have been well pleased with my arrangements and I think the ladies have too. With most of the ladies, I have actually fallen in like with them and I honestly think some of the ladies have fallen in like with me. You should accept the reality that you will probably earn much less money from your 6 clients per year than the "normal" providers who have 750 clients per year.
"the "normal" providers who have 750 clients per year."
Could you cite resourses on those numbers? You did mean 750 clients per year and not 750 dates per year, correct? Thats about 2 new clients a day, not to mention all the repeaters. I havent stopped and taken the time to think about client numbers before. Holy S. Man am I naive.
My estimate of 750 clients per year is based on the total provider population – i.e., streetwalkers, brothel ladies, agency ladies, and internet-based independent sexual service providers (IBISSPs). For IBISSPs, both the number of clients and of dates is less than for the provider population as a whole. In her survey of 100 IBISSPs, Dr. Christine Milford found that in a year, respondents had an average of 934.44 dates with 147.61 different males. Several factors contribute to the differences between IBISSPs and other providers. First, IBISSPs tend to have other jobs, whereas other providers tend to be full-time providers. Dr. Milford noted that “44%of the respondents listed their primary and secondary occupations such as engineer, university instructor, real estate appraiser, fundraising professional, accountant, and attorney. ” Second, IBISSPs tend to attract more repeat customers than other providers. Third, the duration of the dates of IBISSPs tend to be longer than the dates of other providers.
REFERENCE: Milford, Christine. “Sexual Attitudes and Experiences of 100
Internet--Based Independent Sexual Service Providers.”
http://sexandlifecoaching.com/site/wp-content/uploads/2010/05/Column_Paper_on_sexual_attitudes.pdf
Could you cite resourses on those numbers? You did mean 750 clients per year and not 750 dates per year, correct? Thats about 2 new clients a day, not to mention all the repeaters. I havent stopped and taken the time to think about client numbers before. Holy S. Man am I naive.
I can believe the 750 number is a reasonable average, but I still question it as "normal". There are far too many variables.
For many that is high by a factor of 10 or more. For some it is low.
Why do so many men want to define a "normal" number of clients, dates, or income for the ladies? One of the benefits of this line of work is the flexibility to adjust workload, price, and other aspects of a lady's life.
I have a very good friend who does essentially what the OP is describing, has less than a dozen boyfriends at any given time, and probably makes substantially more at it than most women in the business. Number of clients is not necessarily a direct indicator of income. Is it six gentlemen each once a month for three hours, or six men once a week for an overnight? And at what rates?
and the data behind it is, to be polite, wildly speculative. I would be happy to present a more detailed rebuttal but since that, also, would be based more on speculation than anything else, I cannot see the point.
So let me just say that an assumption that the mean is 750 different clients a year (probably implying 1500 dates or more a year) suggests there is a great army of very hardy, very hard working providers out there and almost no ladies who try it once or twice before deciding it is not for them, or ladies who have one or two regulars who take care of them. I would suggest that the latter two scenarios seem at least as likely as the lady who can survive those 1500 dates and keep it up. But maybe I underestimate the stamina of the providers.
I am curious, as a business plan, whether it would be better to go out and search specifically for SDs as the OP seems to plan to do, or to build a business providing with the intention of converting one or more clients into a Sugar Daddy. Not that I expect any real answer to that, just that it is a question that comes to mind based on this thread.
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So your looking for a few Sugar Daddies. If your in the DC area I may be interested but would need to know more about you (age, interests, sexual desires, etc.) and maybe a picture or two. Meeting for lunch would be nice and I would ask you dress real classy in high end business attire with just a hint of sexiness (like dark stockings and some cleavage). Older men would more likely to be interested so you should be prepared for 60 plus gentlemen. Good luck
You will get a lot of time wasters.
Your time is your inventory, remember that; don't ever give it away free.
If I were you, I would get involved with your local board and check out the frequent posters on there. Considering that TER members tend to be the more desirable and high class clients (with a few exceptions - don't ask guys; if the shoes fits...) then stike up a back channel conversation with some (You'll need to buy VIP.) and then ask them if they are interested. You'll have to send them some photos, etc.
I have met a few very good providers this way.
on page 2 I have athread"am I "dating" a provider...
You can read it to see my sugar daddy exp.. thus far...I have since met someone else on "that site"..juts divorced and runs a high end hotel but she misses being wined and dined and being pampered..She was alot closer to me than the 1 1/2 hour drive I was taking,so anyway send a "wink or "kiss"..She reads my profile and get my cell and text me..She ask to see pics and I said I could email but she did not receive..I then say let me at this cheesecake factory and if yo udont like what you see then walk...
So she walks in and says "are you john" and she sits down.. we talk and hit it off and she says I look young and show her that I'm 37..She ask why am I on a site..I explain...She says you dont strike me as the "sugar daddy " type..I said I'm not but I dont mind spending money on a girl I like..She finishes her drink and says to me" your very attractive and it was nice meeting ,me..She gets ready to leave and I hug her and as she pulls away I handed her a $100 and I said nice to meet you too..
Next day she text and ask if we can meet at a bar Louie so I do..We drink eat for a couple hours and we are having fun..She begins to talk about her dog a bit and finally says would you like to come over and meet clive(her dog)..Bar tender hears and smiles and gets the bill..I follow her to her house we begin to make out get undressed,but its as far is we got..We stop and she says I really like you but not ready to sleep with someone on first date..She ask when can we meet again I said I'm gonna be out with the guys thursday night..She says I'm home by 9 pm do you wanna stp by?
I said yes and I then say " Obviously we like each other but how do we do this" she says I'm new to that Sdsbaby site and new to the whole thing and so are you..So she says lets just hangout and have fun I'm not gonna ask you for money and really dont need alot but it was soo nice to be taken out..She said lets just see what comes natuarally and all she really wants was agood time with a guy who isn't cheap..
Well its thursdays and going out tonight and gonna meet with here later..The only thing she ask me to bring was abottle of wine or grey goose..She did not ask for any money but I'll leave her somthing as I do enjoy her company and want her to have some extra cash incase she needs it
Hope this helps you out
There are a handful of SD/SB site out there where this is much more the norm than here. I'll also second MrFisher in that giving away your inventory (time) is rarely (as in 0.5% of the time) a good idea. You train people how to treat you by what you allow them to get away with. If they get used to seeing you for free and getting their companionship need met for free, it would simply make more financial sense to do that and pay $300 once a week to take care of their more intimate needs.
Meeting for coffee/cocktails, say for an hour or so, for free to see if there is enough compatibility for a real date is one thing. Spending 4+ hours on dinner several times is another. If after coffee/cocktails, you both like the idea of a real date then let him know what sort of compensation you'd expect for that. If dinner goes well, then discuss further arrangements.
But then, if all you want is to be wined and dined, perhaps the financial end of matters isn't important. For that purpose, something like Match or EHarmony might make the most sense.
like the others have said, be careful about the freebies. I would not meet anyone for free period. You could consider Meet & Greets as a forum for meeting prospective hobbyists for free. Essentially you are seeking to start out as a low volume provider and want to collect a few regular clients. I think watching the local boards and engaging in PM would work for you. I have done exactly what you are offering. I found a low volume provider in my area that I liked, and I began to see her on a regular basis. we became friends and really enjoyed each others company. we both have moved on, but what you are seeking is quite possible. I would avoid the complimentary dates however.