reading the self help center, link at top of page under the life preserver.  You will find a lot of helpful info there.  Until you get some references, you are going to have to give up some personal info either to each provider, or to one or two verification sites.  Gina at P411 is pretty good at verifying guys with a minimum of prying into your life.

Girls that don't require refs, you don't want to see, trust me on that, unless you want to spend the night in the gray bar hotel, and I don't think you really want that.  P411 allows the providers to indicate if they are newbie friendly, those are the ones to look for.  You can look here, but it may take a while.  You gotta do the research if you want to stay safe.  Do a search for 'research' on this forum.

Swim

Yeah, I'd be willing to give them whatever information they need.

Many do.  You just have to ask.  There is no one-size-fits-all answer.

area?

I have lots of UTR friends & friends that were just testing waters for a minute etc..,If your ever down Atlanta way ...I'm Da' Man....jk , just drop a note on atl.disc. if you cant pm.