Hi y'all. I was pretty active for 10 years until Sesta Fosta and used TER at the time. I'm not a noob, but considering that I have been out of the loop a while, I feel like one. I followed the ebb and flow at the time and started following girls on Twitter, and as I began to feel more comfortable with things, then C-19 hit and I stepped back again. With talks of a vaccine I'm looking forward to coming back again in 2021. I've never been in this position before. I still have my p4 account and have a history of 30 okay's from different providers over the years. I realize none are current, and that I will have to start over with screening, but 30 provider okays and being a member of a verification site for over 10 years should at least establish that I have a positive history as far as screening correct? Even though there is a gap?  

I remember when I was active, It was harder to see the top rated girls unless I had fresh references and I spent a lot of time with noob friendly girls to establish a history. Has anyone been away for a while and came back? What should I expect now in regards to trying to see top rated providers with a long steady history and then a 3-4 year gap in references?  

Also, I'm nervous about YMMV.  When I was active before, I was in my 30's to my 40's and 30 pounds lighter, in good shape. I'm not apple shaped LOL, but I am overweight now by definition and I'm turning 50 soon. I never hobbied overweight. I'm thinking seeing providers will be a huge motivation to getting back into shape. Vanity is a hell of a motivator. However, out of the gate, I'll be as I am. I have this feeling if I show up to the room to see a top reviewed provider who is in perfect physical shape and has model looks, It won't be a good experience for her and therefore leaving me feeling bad. I stay closer to my age range avoiding providers any younger than 35 for similar reasons in regards to compatibility, but geez, some of these 40-50 year old providers look like fitness models. I really want to reach out to the top rated providers like I was before when I was active, but I have become a little self conscious now that I've been away for awhile, now that everything has changed and I gained some weight.

I appreciate that this community has returned and would love some feedback

With 30 provider okay's there's a good chance a few are still in business. Might want to reach out to them first as they may be less strict about recent reviews. That would help with getting current references for other ladies.

As far as your weight goes, there's no time like now, and it will not get easier by waiting. Talking with your doctor would be a good place to start. I got a referral to a nutritionist a few years ago that really paid off by helping me learn how to plan healthier meals and find healthy but tasty snacks. Of course, walking is usually free.