I was wondering if any guys on this board lost their virginity to a provider. I am kind of shy and I have never been able to approach girls at a bar or anything like that. I hate waited for a long time for someone special, but that person never came. However, I want to get laid and loose for my virginity.

For all of those who did this or for those of you who would like to offer some advice I would appreciate if you could comment on the following questions:
1) What kind of provider should I look for?
2) How safe is this and what should I avoid?
3) If you later found someone special in life, did you ever confess that you lost your virginity to a provider?

Thanks. Any comments would be appreciated.

1) someone who is very GFE
2)Avoid non-reviewed ladies
3) Would not advise

I would also recommend scheduling a longer date for your first time!

XoXo

Lina

Twenty some years ago, I was in your place.  Many of us have had our first experience with a provider.

An older GFE gal usually is better for a newbie.

BTW, when you do find that special lady that you will love forever, do you really want to hear about her sexual experiences???  If she loves you, and more important, if you love her, it won't matter.

Good Luck my friend,

jazz32

http://www.adultsheepfinder.com/

Here I am trying to help a lonely, confused young man, and you post this tripe!!!  You're moderated!!!  

Of course you can take care of that in less than a minute!!!

Love your humor, but there are limits, LOL

jazz32

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Hobbying has risks. I can only give you a picture of what I look for and what I avoid. First, I seek out providers that have a sound education and goals in life. Next, the provider need to excite me with her looks, grooming and figure, I have a specific look that I respond to. Third, when I meet her I pay attention to mannerisms and her appearance. Fourth, when clothes are off, I pay attention to her close body personal cleanliness.

Never admit that you hobby to a civvi unless you know that she was a provider or knew someone who was. Most civvies do not understand hobbying and look at us as sex crazed freaks. You are better off moving on with that someone special and not mentioning your hobbying. The liklihood is that the someone special would have had one or more boyfriends, she would not recount her adventures to you, don't recount yours to her.

If you go about it in the right way, hobbying will make you more at ease around women because it will remove the need for you to "come on" to a woman in social settings like conventions, bars, airports, resturants or the job. You will find more women noticing you and seeking to spend time with you, at least, that has been my experience.

T, first of all I think you are a lucky guy. Not that you are still a virgin but that you have TER and I hope VIP. I wish I had this tool when I was a virgin. You get the honor of finding exactly what you want your first time to be like. With VIP you can choose what services you want performed, who with and for how long. Gee, my first was in a 72 mailibu back seat and lasted every bit of 15 min. with most of that getting our clothes off!!

As for your number system here is what I would recommend.

1. Find a well reviewed provider that has 9's 10's if possible. Look for guys saying stuff like she was very loving, cuddling and much the GFE. This will be best for you for your first. More kinky stuff can come later when you are more comfortable.

2. If your safety issue means LE you shouldn't worry about that if you follow my #1 advice. If you are talking about safety as in STD's once again #1 should be used. Well reviewed ladies have been at this a long time and play safe and are tested. From what I read they are usually safer than a civi girl that might not make you use a cover.

3. I would never tell a future mate or S.O. of my former bed partners prior to them. It doesn't make sense no matter if it was through the hobby or a civi experience.

Hope this helps and let us know how your first time went!!

1) A well reviewed, highly regarded lady.  Probably better to go with an indie rather than agency.  Join one the certification services if necessary so that lack of references will be less of an issue.  Since you are only 26, I would suggest booking with a lady somewhere between 28 - 35....ladies in this age bracket, especially at the upper end, will be mature enough and understanding, plus they are still hot!  Not sure what your experience level is; your post leads me to believe it's minimal.  The GFE experience can be quite intense; let her set the pace, and just go with the flow.  You may also want to tell her it's your first time up front...the right lady will certainly try to make your experience as great as possible.  At the end of the day, you will remember your first time for the rest of your life; by picky, and don't let $ be an issue.    

Also, be sure get VIP membership, and read as many reviews as you can for a few weeks to get an idea of what to expect.

2) By picking a well regarded lady with many excellent reviews, your risks from LE and STD's are minimal to virtually non-existent.  The main thing is that you will be nervous as hell before and at the start of your session.  This is normal, and you shouldn't feel bad about it.  It should play itself out as the session gets underway...just relax, let her set the tempo, and enjoy!

3) Can't answer that one.  You will have decide for yourself when the time comes.  Remember also that you will be far from the first man whose first time was with a provider...there is no shame in that!        

Best of luck to you, dude!  Hopefully, we'll see a post here sometime soon from you with good news!

CD  

p.s. If anyone posts here that you should continue to hold out waiting for something to happen with civvies, you should ignore their advice, unless you have something that may bloom soon.  You've waited long enough (too long, IMO); it's time to take control of your situation, and end this if that what you wish to do.  That's one of great things about the hobby...you are in control of your own destiny!

In Colonial Days, it was a tradition for an Uncle to take the young man to a brothel...  a rite of passage.  
When you find someone, you never discuss the details of previous "girlfriends".  That's ungentlemanly.  Do not kiss & tell.

While it will be a mind blowing experience, keep a hold of your emotions.  It's easy to fall for someone who gives you great sex.
skb

can read the juicy details of the reviews.  Some ladies are much better with new hobbyists than others.  General rules of thumb include a more mature lady (at least 30) who has been in the businss for at least 2 years.  These ladies are more GFE than a 22 yr. old who just wants to see how fast she can make you cum.  

For the first time you want a multi-hr. appointment which will help overcome any anxiety you may have to "hurry up".  Take time to enjoy the journey.

Hey tanit,

I was in the same situation as you and also lost my virginity to a provider. Lots of people have done that, so it's no big deal. You can avoid a lot of problems by doing research first. There's a ton of info here on TER if you get VIP membership. Before I saw my first provider, I read on TER for couple of weeks to make sure I'm well informed before I took the plunge. Look for someone you're comfortable with, read her reviews (make sure she has at least three or four good ones) and give her a call. If you're careful and do your homework, you should be fine.
As far as telling a civie about this hobby, like other people have advised: it's probably not a good idea. Good luck and have fun!

paxx7

Hi,
thanks for your response. Did you tell the provider and that you were a virgin? How did you deal with the references?

I was in the same situation just a couple years back, I was 21. I didnt know much about the hobby at all and didnt look at any reviews. It went ok, but It could have been a bad experience, so just be sure to hire a well reviewed GFE provider.

I am actually in the exact same position as tantim and I'd like to know the answer to this as well.  First of all, is it okay to bring up that you are a virgin before you actually get to the provider?  I have never been sure if that was inappropriate to bring up over the phone or via e-mail.  Also, every provider I have gone to has told me I need at least one reference.  What can I do about that?  I obviously need to see someone in order to get a reference.  Any help would be great.

I was in this situation until I was 25 being a nice, shy guy (my only gf was a busty girl back in college and we just dry humped and fooled around).  Once that ended, I lost a lot of confidence.  The club scene has been harsh too as I got rejected by lots of girls.  So what did I do?  My bud took me to an asian massage parlor he used.  So I lost my virginity to a pretty 23yr. old.  I wanted to kiss her, but she said no kiss.  Even though I had a great time, I still feel like a virgin in spirit since I didn't get the kiss.