Hello beautiful ladies of TER...and all you hairy legged guys as well.

I'm a complete newbie with no previous posts and 0 reviews…yet, so be a little gentle. I have been reading the discussion boards and reviews for a while now and have decided to jump headlong into this interesting hobby.  

I have arranged an appointment to see a well-known and well-reviewed lady on an upcoming trip to Disneyland, but have a question regarding the proper etiquette for meeting her at an outcall location. Many of the reviews  mention answering the knock at the door, but I'm thinking it would be more respectful to meet her in the lobby and walk her up.

So, if security is not required for a person to access different floors of a  hotel, would it be better for me to greet her in the lobby or wait for the knock on the door?

Thank you for your time and responses.

I know you are asking the ladies, but I don't think a provider is going to have a problem with just coming to your room.

I always feel a little uneasy walking into a hotel, not being too sure of exactly where to go and of course not being a guest, so I am assuming the feeling might be mutual.

You could always ask if she wants to meet for a quick drink and then walk up together

Meeting in the room, not the lobby, is the more usual way to do it.  It is more inconspicuous that way.  

There is no need to draw unneeded attention to yourself and your date by meeting in the lobby, unless the hotel has security card access to get to the rooms which would require you to meet in the lobby.  

If you meet a provider in a lobby where there are people around, there will be bystanders who will casually notice that this appears to be the first time you two are meeting, and then both of you are eagerly going up to your room... they can figure out what is going on in 2 seconds flat.

I prefer to go upstairs on my own for privacy reasons.. I am always very understated and elegant but I never know who I can run into at the lobby (I live in Miami which is not that big). Once I asses the lobby situation and if we decide to go downstairs for a drink, is fine.
That way, the obvious stress of meeting for the first time is gone and we both can enjoy each other's company.

-- Modified on 12/3/2013 7:05:07 PM

It's simply awkward and adds another obstacle we must deal with. Research the hotels you choose BEFORE booking them...all you do is call asking about security and say you have children. They will tell you flat out if a card key is needed for the elevator. If you are the ONLY client she is seeing at this hotel, meeting at the bar would not be a problem, but if she is the one staying there for x amount of days, meeting random men in the lobby/bar is beyond stupid.

monitoring the lobby, let alone lots of cameras. Not a good idea to meet in the lobby and go up to the room together.  

When you give the room # to the provider, give her the layout of the lobby and where to find the elevators.

Well here is my personal  feeling  the lobby is not where you meet. the gentlemen should meet her outside by the front door it definetly calms the nerves if it is late night. or wait in his room for that long anticipated knock, but guys why not ask her what she would prefer ...give her choice ..you'll be starting the night off right.

especially with newbie hobbyists, so much so, that they actually have a list for major properties on the status of security and key card access. Granted Vegas, is different than most cities, as they have over 30 million tourists a year,   humongous lobbies and busy casinos. Most veteran hobbyists will meet a provider in the valet parking area or in one of the casino bars.  

The message I'm hearing loud and clear is that discretion is key!  

As much as I'd like to, greeting her in the lobby and carrying on like a teenager in heat all the way back to my room would not be the prudent thing to do since Big Brother is everywhere…something I didn't consider.

When the day finally arrives, I will wait patiently in my room for that knock…then commence to carry on like a teenager!  

HH, awesome list, may come in handy while in Disneyland!

Thanks again,

Walt

of how to get to the elevators...  very helpful.  Anticipate any needs like key cards & ask her how she wants to handle it & have some suggestions ready.  All these things are easily surmounted but being surprised by one can really foul up the mood,

And you need a key card to get to higher floors there are a couple of things I have done.  

1) I ask the client to call when he arrives then I tell him what I am wearing (if he is a regular then no problem) I will then walk through the lobby and appear as I'm getting something such as newspaper or I'll ask the bartender/front desk a simple question such as a good place to eat giving the client time to notice me and head towards the elevators. I then walk back to the elevators and get on with my client ... Easy and no greeting in the lobby.  

2) another thing is that of the hotels who do this ... Often times you can assess another floor such as a skyway floor, conference floor or connecting downtown building.  Meeting those places is less noticeable as well. And If you need to meet in a public place always describe yourself well and act as if you are old or good friends from college or work or even husband and wife ... Now that's a hot role play scenario jk.  

3) in the case that I'm seeing a regular ... I just hide the key someplace and tell him where to find it and my room number.  

I do agree avoid any of this at all costs ... But if you have been in that situation as some of us unknowingly have ... Act as if you own the place (been there) and make sure you give good directions to the incoming party ... I always describe how to walk in and how to get to the elevator, which turns to take and if my room is on the right or left.