I admit if only I got more of these I would not feel compelled to post this. But I can tell you that the e-mails I receive along these lines Do get top priority.I hope this helps. Livie.
Hi Livie I saw your add on.......... My name is......... I am a member of ........ My references are........Miss vvv web site www.missxxx.com e-mail [email protected]
cell#555-555-5555
Also Missyyy..ect ect.
I would love to set up a date with you are you available for in call/out call 01 /15/09 at 8 :pm. I would also like to ask some questions once the versifying process is complete. My cell # is 555-555-555 you can call me between the hours of .. and ;; so we can chat a bit be fore meeting. Thanks Mr.xx OR
Hi Livie my name is........ I'm new to this and I have no references.
My last name is ...... i am 38 yr old I 'm in construction. The company I work for is zzzzz construction
123 mani st
port anywhere
212-555-5555
my cell is 555-555-555.
I would like to meet on tue 01/15/09 out call @ 6:pm if you need any more info you can e-mail me @ [email protected]. I look forward to hearing from you soon Mr.xxx.
So often providers post examples of what not to do, but I think this is the first time I've seen a complete example of just how to go about it.
Be courteous, brief and forthcoming with personal information and you will hear back, from the good ones anyways.
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Hi Livie, My name is Duckbill8 and I've actually made myself a form in a word document where all I have to do is put in the providers name I contact and can you believe I still don't get responses from ladies advertising they are coming to my area???
Of course I've also gotten great replies with lots of kudo's for my informative letter to their email.
Thanks for giving us something positive instead of negative....honey attracting us bee's!!!
you've provided all the info she would need to screen you, provided a date/time (range) you'd like to me and get a response back saying: "Just call me, hon"
I never do.
that may not be a bad thing, lots of times when you go all out to verify someone then I know I want to have a conversation with them. Its got a great deal to do with personality and if there is a click over the phone. She may have already checked your references and is ready to talk to you, or maybe before she verifies you she'd like to speak with you. We all do this a bit different its all to do with a comfort level. I will never see a Gentleman I have not spoken with at some point. Some I prefer to speak with before I verify them and others I am comfortable with doing so after. She may have some questions for you that you did not include the information to and since she will want to speak with you anyway, it can all be dealt with all at once.
So what can it hurt to call her, you may become even more interested after your conversation.
I understand your point, sweetnicole, and when ladies write something like "yes, Bubba, I'd love to see you. Please give me a call so we can finalize the details", I call every time.
But when if the response is "just call me, hon" (I've literally gotten this exact response 4 or 5 times), I interpret it as "stop wasting my time with email." Maybe that's not what they meant, but it caused me to lose interest.
This lady just provided two examples of the correct way to word your e-mail. Personally, I would add a personal description as well, just to add to my introduction.
Livie,
What a wonderfully informative post for the newbies. Thank you for posting.
Gentlemen,
It is great when screening doesn't involve many back and forth e-mails asking for more and more information. This is very time consuming for both the provider you want to meet and for your references.
Just telling me who your references are is not enough information. Your references need to remember who you are in order to refer you. Here is the reference information I request:
Please provide the names, website links and contact info of at least 2 providers whom you have seen. You must include WHEN and WHERE your get together was, along with any (G-rated) DETAILS that might help her remember her time with you. If you contacted her via phone, then I will need YOUR phone number. If she knows you well, then tell me so. Also, tell me if you have no references so we can consider whether alternate means are possible.
Happy Hobbying,
Sarah Nicole of Seattle
Most of my references have white listed me. In this case what do you prefer?
1. Just look at my white list
2. In my email, provide links to their TER profiles, which contain all the info (phone, emaal, website)
3. I provide all the info in my email to you
I figure it's better that you can obtain the contact info from a neutral 3rd party (TER) than what I provide myself, but perhaps convenience is more important.
I am new at this, but take it all with a grain of salt...
I prefer to send out an initial email giving my first name,when i would like to meet, a description of myself, and a promise to send references or whatever info the provider needs, if they are available and would like to meet. I think the above examples are good templates, but a little too much for me.
I am just a little uneasy about sending all my personal info to someone who I have never communicated with before. I am nervous about having it floating "in the ether." I would prefer to hear back and then send my last name, phone number and work info, whatever. It seems pointless to send all that if they can't/won't see me, and the less people that have the info, the better.
Am I being too paranoid? I would love to
hear what others think.
By the way, I love this board. I have really gotten into it over the past couple weeks, and I appreciate all the advice everyone gives. Thanks.
Dear JR,
What you are sending in your initial e-mail sounds just perfect.
I do not think you are being paranoid at all. Protecting personal information is very important.
If I were a hobbyist, I would be reluctant to part with any of my personal information - be last name, home phone number, address or work info.
Happy Hobbying,
Sarah Nicole
Hello JR to be honest your intro e-mail with out reference info would most likely (9 times out 10) would go in the trash. From my experience and the way I see it is if you are truly are interested you will provide this info at the start. I will no longer engage in Hit or Miss e-mails. lol Unfortunately e-mails like you discribe, suggest you are fishing or window shopping. I know this may sound harsh. But I can tell I love the company of the men I have met and I have meet them not because they had a dollar in there pocket. I met them because they had the self respect for them self's to address me in a respectfully manner. Respectful of my time and worth as a person 1st. And in return they got that and more back from me And we still enjoy each others company. The more I'm on this board (I love it too ) the more I find ..that guy was right women are from Venus and Men are from Mars in that we tend to see the same things yet we get 2 totally different prospectives.Ha Ha So I do hope this helps.
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IMHO You are not being paranoid. You are being careful just like the providers you wish to see. Don't be intimidated into giving more personal info than you feel comfortable giving out.
It is not often that a well reviewed provider will abuse the information you provide, but it is not as rare as some of them would like you to believe. Trust your instincts, you seem rather well grounded to me.
What if I never been with any provider?
I have no references.
use example 2.lol
then you will have to give your info or take your chances with the rip offs that don't care to screen.
Since I am self employed and divorced I have no issues with giving out what some hobbyists would consider overly personal information, but I refuse to fill out a form that states that incomplete forms will be rejected without comment.
they remind me of IRS tax returns. I won't fill them out EVER.
I do not either and an email with proper English and sentence sructure is more revealing I think
That is fine for me just please don't wast your time or mine with incompleat info.lol
LOL ,yea I did that on purpose . Good eye and I bet you have a good sense of humor in person
Communication
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