Come on, be who you are, don't worry about "should"

Do what you want to do, especially what gives you pleasure unlessyou feel terrible about doing it. Then quit. Seems pretty binary to me - if you are paying to have a pleasure that lasts for a much shorter time than how long you will feel guilty about it, it is not worth it.

JUST DO NOT CONFESS TO YOUR WIFE. The guilt will pass for sure, but the damage you could do to your marriage is something that could last forever.

zig

Your guilt feelings are yours to deal with.

If you can't deal with them, don't do it.  Do what you can deal with.

Swim

not at home then with a provider.  A provider is much "safer" than an affair.  You get to enjoy a lady's company without the drama--at about the same cost.

this isnt the place to ask that question. Most of the people on this board will attempt to convince you that YOU are the most important variable. You aren't.

You asked the same question last summer....

and you're still undecided as to what to do?

I can only guess that you fantasize about what you want to do...but don't have enough confidence to actually do it.

And for many folks the fantasy will remain just that...a fantasy!

I can't offer up any better advice than what you got over the summer...or today.  But I would suggest to stop "torturing" yourself with this angst.  Go and try something else that turns you on...like golf perhaps?

... about surfing TER. How do you deal with it?

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get a bottle of silicone lube (http://www.pjur.com) AND RUB HER FEET ON YOUR DICK.

For god sakes.

It's a foot job!!! You aren't asking much!

Tell her she needs to be "GGG"
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Savage_Love#GGG

to your grave.  If you can't handle the guilt, then don't do it.  If you do, do it.  STFU.  You'll get over it.  This hobby is not for everyone.  No harm, no foul.  If you decide it's not for you then at least you thought it through fully.
H

Some of us are stuck in marriages devoid of any kind of sex or romance (men whose wives that for some reason decided to take a fucking vow of celibacy after marriage).

Therefore, if the wives would bother to take care of things at home, their men wouldn't feel so compelled to go out mongering about elsewhere.  Honestly, if you don't go out mongering, you will spontaneously combust.  In cases like this, it is the wife's fault that her man seeks sex elsewhere... Let her feel guilty for making her man to do it.

I would love to take my wife for a pedicure but she doesn't like having her feet touched....hence the problem. She is really not into the whole foot thing. I have gotten a few fj from her but she complained the whole time and doesn't let me finish on her feet.