other information to her instead such as your place of employment. You can also use a service like Date-Check, which verifies your employment independently of a provider.

I know this is asked alot and i am trying to figure this out but just cant find the info. This is my first time and I have no references. What should I do? whats the best way to let an independent know that im ok??

Join a verification service such as P411, or RS2K.  Without these or a referral it will be much more difficult.  Many women will meet newbies if you've been verified with a service.

I used date check and it worked quite well ... esp when I went to use Aphrodite - and then they provided a reference for me on the date check site.

it will be well worth it and then you can search for newbie friendly providers in your area.Some ladies although you are a member of a verification site if you have no references might ask you for additional info as well.

I joined P411, was cleared at 1pm and had a newbie friendly date at 7 pm

I've come to love it. It's such an efficient way of doing things.