beeing new to this i have invite a provider for a outcall. what should i do to make sure she feels safe. what can i do to make this a night to rember for the both of us...
or would it be better if i booked a room so we both have no worries. i leave in a sub div with a bunch of noisey ladies an do not want this to be seen.
any help please...
If you want it to be remembered go to a nice hotel. Otherwise the noisy ladies in your sub div may never let you forget.
BTW if you are married, NEVER, NEVER bring a lady into your home!!!
I would never see an escort at my home on the first visit. I have only one escort who I will let come to my home. She's my atf, and I've been seeing her for a year and a half. Many escorts will not come to a private home on a first visit especialy if you have not written reviews and do not participate in your local board. Most ladies like to be in control, and that is not the case when she's at your house. Make sure to do your homework and good luck.
I live in a fairly secluded neighborhood and I have a garage so I can drive us into the home without being seen.
Here's the to-do list:
First, know the gal well. Don't bring a stranger into your home.
Clean the place up, especially the bathrooms.
If you have pets, check with her first, she might have allergies.
Wash the linens.
Get some nice candles to give the place some atmosphere and cover up any noxious odors.
Get lots of towels ready.
If you cook, prepare her a nice meal and ask her what she likes and ask about any dietary restrictions.
If you don't cook you can always take her out to a nice local restaurant first, or have some good takeout ready.
Don't forget breakfast.
I love the home court advantage.
Is all dining her - which can take an hour - on the 'clock'? or is to considered off the clock?
I know it probably pays down the road... but i am just wondering. and for that matter.. if it takes her 15 minutes to get comfortable, and 15 minutes to shower.. are those 30 minutes 'on the clock' or generally, providers don't count that
- newbie just asking figuring out the rules
She will be comfortable when she walks in. As for the shower, your talking 5 minutes, big deal. Yes she will eat on the clock. If your that concerned about the clock book a 2 hour session, not need to eat, well there is DATY.
others have said, if you have a SO, the answer is Hell NO!
But then again, if they are "noisey ladies," they could prove to be a good distraction, but if they are nosy ladies, you're in big trouble. I would definitely recommend getting a room at a reasonably nice hotel.
You have good advise here. Niether of you will have a god time if she's uncomfortable... which she would be in a compact neighborhood with nosy neighbors. If you're rural & you've met her before, ok.
A messy house will not go over & yes, especially clean the bathroom.
Do NOT bring a provider home if you have a SO. She doesn't care if the SO is out of the country. It's a total turn off to have HER THINGS around.
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I know this was foolish and I would never advocate it but a long time favorite of mine asked if she could come over to my house when I was still married (and the wife knew about my hobbying) during some time that my wife was away.
She admitted to getting a certain thrill from it and I likewise enjoyed the taboo facination with it.
Of course I labored mightily afterwards to remove any trace of her visit afterwards and if the SO suspected anything, she didn't let on.
Man, you have balls. I could never do that, and I don't shy away easy.
(still not mrfisher)
I recall seeing a Shelby Cobra at my local mechanics many years ago (Very fast race car that could top 200 MPH.)
I remarked that it must take balls to drive something like that.
He said "Nah, you just don't need brains."
8o)
I've been to plenty of homes with female items around the house, and it's not a turn off for me at all. I just think it's more of a risk to the client.
If you have nosy neighbor though, let the provider know and to be discreet (as any reputable providers should be), dress casual, etc. Otherwise get a room elsewhere.
I do practically nothing BUT outcalls to private residences. If the lady is going to rob you, she can do it in a hotel, too.
A well-reviewed lady would be better than a ho off the street, but that is true no matter where you meet her.
Follow Mr. Fisher's advice... toilet paper is a must as is a towel for her.
Home meetings, yours or hers, have a much more natural feel to them. I've had very many TER reviewed escorts to my home, many of whom I'd never met. If they have worries, they sure do a great a job of hiding them.
The only minor thing I would add to mrfisher's list is to keep doors open around the house. You don't want them being concerned that their might be somebody else in the house. Who cares about nosy neighbors, Aren't we allowed to have women over to our houses?
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There was a nice tip here I want to reinforce... have clean towels for her use. Hand towel, wash cloth, bath towel (who knows you might get a chance to shower together.)
I think the garage concept is a possibility.
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I enjoy having ladies in my home, and have never had a problem. Listen to MrFisher. I am single, and would not encourage anyone to do this if they are married. That would fall under the rule of don't sh@t in your own backyard.