So, after weeks of searching reviews, a couple of failed scheduling issues, becoming more enlightened about the world of hobbyists and providers, the excitement of my first meeting.....   I was unable to "be at my best". WTF. The wind blows the wrong way and I'm "at my best". Thankfully, my provider was not only beautiful, but very understanding.    Need some insight-

My first encounter, when it came time for the final entry, I wilted.  She was cool, although very young but finished me off wonderfully.  Saw her about 2 years later, and no problem with finishing.  Face it, it happens, just don't let it bother you.  Relax and enjoy, regardless of how you have to finish, even if it's DIY, which is not always so bad......

Swim

Thanks Swim. It was almost surreal. I appreciate your honesty. The only reason I posted this(which is also my first) is because when i was pouring over the reviews and discussion boards for the last month I found that aside from a couple screwballs, the discussions were open, frank, and honest-hobbyists and providers alike.

nerves and condoms.  Gets a lot of guys on their maiden voyage. Most don't come on the board looking for help, so props to you.  If it's been awhile since you covered up during sex, it happens to many guys.  

How bout  finishing another way? bbbj or Russians, or an old fashion hj.  Now as far as the nerves, eventually you'll get them under control.  

...First time. Nerves, preparations, whatever else you deal with on a daily basis can influence the outcome. 2nd time you are more comfortable things go better.

My first time I intended to have a blow job and intercourse. Everything goes great DFK, lots of makin' out, right up to the blow job. 69, damn it was good. Finally seeing her and having that first experience I was excited to the point I was quick on the trigger. Good thing she was OK with cim. (Yes, I knew that going in.) Have seen her several times since and it's all good!

My very first meeting with a provider was exactly like yours.  I didn't know what the hell was going on, and the provider was super beautiful too.

It is a mental problem, you get nervous, you build it up too much in your head, you over think things, and boom, you are a wet noodle.  It is called a "mind fuck" and it can happen to anyone, especially if you don't do this too often.

I have found that the best remedy for that is to see women who give sensual massages instead.  You are under no pressure to do anything in these situations except to relax, which also clears the mind and you are relaxed and have a clear mind, guess what?  You don't have a mind fuck anymore.  If you are able to get rid of your mind fuck like this, then you should be fine after that, as long as you don't wait forever to have sex again.

If you don't have sex too often, the mind fuck can come back, but at least you will know how to get rid of it again.  I hope this helps you out.  All I can say is that this works for me.

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Was looking to open with some type of positive affirmation for you but really, it has to be incredibly dissappointing and disheartening.  So that much sucks.

But in the words of the late, great John Belushi:  "Did the Americans surrender when the German's bombed Pearl Harbor?".  "FUCK NO!

A couple of constructive things to share here.  From personal experience as well as some very extensive and heart-felt discussions with some exceptionally well-respected providers, there is a decent chance you will find that you are in this to satiate unmet emotional not sexual needs.  Yes the mid-blowing sex with beautiful young women you only dreamed about making love to is more than awesome, but if you are like many than you will be thinking about how wonderful it felt just to hold and be held by her, caressing, more so than the sex two days later.

Did you start off by just talking to her, getting to know each other OFF the bed first?  Even for three or five minutes?  Did you trade multiple PMs in advance just flirting and again, getting comfortable?  Once you got on the bed, did you ask if you could please just get naked with her and give her a nice long naked gentle massage?  Or did you just try and slam that baby home?  I am not saying it is for everybody, but starting off with those PMs, the little talk when I arrive and most importantly giving her that massage is critical for me and is the difference between "making it happen" and having it happen naturally which is so much more rewarding, much more the fantasy.

This is just my experience.  I got drunk before my first escort visit (nice, right?) because I was so fucking nervous.  Had not been with anyone but my wife in well over twenty years and really wanted to puke from the nerves more than I wanted to have sex with her and it almost didn't happeen (turns out she has a cum on her breasts fetish and she just wasn't going to be denied so we got there, but on her time).

From there it has evolved, hell I don't even drink period anymore and I have no issues not only getting the deed done but relaxing and thoroughly enjoying every moment of the date with even the most beautiful women so long as I follow my own procedure