Check out the self help section, right under the life preserver at top right of this page.

Scroll down and read the posts here, there are several with good advice.

All you have to do is start seeing gentlemen who will write you one, keep in mind that even when they may have a handle they may not necessarily write those, it is for the purpose to get white listed and to read the juicy details... Once you get the handle make sure you do your homework, read the entire section of either some of his reviews or all the reviews. You can find out a lot about someone by his writing style (choice of words, remarks about a lady etc). You will need to advertise somewhere also in order to have your ad link on the first section of your profile. After your first review, you will have your TER number.
Good luck!!!