Allright, here's the deal, I have picked a provider, she has screened me and says I am good to go. Being as this is my first, I am trying to decide between one hour or two. I know I will be nervous as heck at the start of the session but, if what everyone has said, I will warm up quickly. Also, at my age, I suspect I am good for one good pop. Should I go with 2 hours and just let things happen naturally or should my first be one hour?
You'll get varying opinions. Some guys like the long warm-up of getting to know the lady, so as to reduce the anxieties. I think many guys, myself included, prefer an hour appointment when starting with someone new, especially if you're a one pop sort of guy. If there's not a good connection between you, two hours is a long, long time.
Hell, I'm lucky to get ONE pop in, but I almost never book less than two hours, frequently more. That's just the time it takes to have the experience want. If all you want is to get in, get done, and get out, book an hour. Nothing at all wrong with that, it just isn't for me.
I was very recently in your situation. I saw my first provider two weeks ago. I thought I'd be really nervous and all. I booked a 3 hour appointment and was so glad I did. Turns out I was much less nervous (I was a little) than I thought I would be. I had a great time and was happy I booked an extended session. I'm sure everyone will have their own opinion but if you do your research and truly feel you found the right provider to pop your hobby cherry, a multi hour session could be a great way to start.
I book a 1 hour appointment but ask the provider if things go well, would she mind me extending the session for another hour. It would be my call during the session. I've actually have had good results with that in that if I get there and feel we don't click then I get out of the session in the one hour. If things go well and I don't want to rush or like the provider then I have the power to extend the session.
A couple of things to remember is this will only work if the provider isn't booking her sessions close together and she has the free time if you choose to stay the second hour. So the initial call is all hers.
The second thing is the donation. I put the one hour in a plain envelope then keep the second hour donation in a separate envelope to place on top of the 1st if I stay the second hour.
This happens but more often doesn't work. I like to know what the time-frame is at the onset of the appt in order to provide the best service I can. Additionally, while Duckbill seems very genuine, please keep in mind that some folks use this as a ploy to try and stay overtime or to negotiate a larger than normal reduction of the rate for a 2 hour appt - "after all, I'm already here and you're not busy after this, right?" The "some is better than none" theory at work. I get leary when new clients propose making a "one hour for sure, but maybe 2 hr appt" I don't hold the second hour unless you book it.
I'd have to agree with Erica here, it's unfair to book one hour with a provider and then dangle a possible second hour in front of her. Like anyone else in the service sector, the only thing a provider has to sell is time, and they can't be expected to hold open a time slot that you 'may or may not' want.
Perhaps a 90 minute appt would be best, if you're torn between 1 vs 2 hours. A 90 minute session may take some of the pressure off you, and based on avg rates, another $150 is not too much of a financial burden. --z
The gal I am seeing claims to only see one client per day. My only concern is that I am so wired at the beginning that I go quickly and then can't go again. I guess we could simply focus on her then. I've got a while before I head out of town, so the decision isn't imminent.
On the topic of men not wanting to commit to a specific session length...
I feel the need to rant and rave a bit!
I am very much not a clock watcher... I enjoy chatting, giving massages, cuddling etc. Unfortunately many of my clients (both repeat and new) sometimes take this kindness for a bit of a weekness, and really push reasonable boundaries by staying SIGNIFICANTLY over the sceduled and compensated time! Even if the lady does not have another session sceduled after yours, SHE DOES HAVE A LIFE! Dogs to walk, errands to run, personal calls to return, recycling to drop off... etc. And like Erica, I consider it tacky when people ask "You're not busy after this, right?" I NEVER kiss and tell about the other sessions I may or may not have sceduled for that day- I consider it impolite on the gentleman's part to ask.
I have actually had people say- "I haven't heard the phone ring, is bussiness slow?" What the heck! I would NEVER be so rude as to leave the volume of my phone on during a session...!
So the long and short of it- MOST women prefer to know the sceduled time BEFORE the session starts. If the lady you see is more flexable about this, then kindly don't behave like some of MY guys and scedule for an hour... and THEN an HOUR AND 45 MINUTES LATER... make her have to get dressed without showering... put her coat on... and PHYSICALLY WALK you out to your CAR- just to get you out of the incall room!!! HA.
Believe it or not, I have actually had to do this on quite a few occasions! When a lady says "I should probably be sending you on your way so I can go home and walk my dogs before they pee pee on the floor... and gives you a hug and a kiss... this does NOT mean that you stand there chatting for another 30 minutes... After the 3rd or 4th hug good bye, if you are not walking out to the parking lot, there is a problem!
BUT I'm sure *YOU* will be a perfect gentleman and not require an air horn blast going off to send you on your merry way at the end of the session... so have fun and good luck on your 1st adventure!
My post wasn't intended to cause a rant and if I got you upset, then let me first apologize. I assure you my post clearly states a "suggestion" meaning just that.
I also stated for this guy to ask upfront about the possibility of extending the session to 2 hours if things were going well prior to making the appointment. I have done this actually twice and didn't offend either lady and they actually seemed to like the idea. I did wind up staying for the 2-hour session on both.
I'm actually more of a clock-watcher than the lady. I respect their time as I'm self-employed and understand someone taking advantage of my time as well.
So once again, didn't mean to get your blood pressure up (I'd rather do that in a session with you ...wink..wink).
...who occasionally require me to sit there naked, clutching a pillow, and stewing- as they wash up *chat chat chat* hug goodbye ... *chat chat*... put on a few articles of clothes... *chat chat* finish dressing... lean in for another goodbye hug and kiss... *CHAT CHAT CHAT* START WALKING TOWARD THE DOOR... do an about face turn, say "just one more story, I promise..." *chat chat* hug again... etc etc...!!
I think you get the picture! All of this after the session time is over by 30... 40... 50... or more minutes...!!
I refuse to ever voice the words "Your time is up" or "I have another session sceduled in a little while"... But I have a fair amount of people that will IGNORE REPEATED SUBTLE HINTS to a ridiculous extent... For THOSE people, I fantasize about waving a stick of incense too close to the smoke detector while they are in the bathroom washing up... Maybe the ear drum shattering beeping and threat of the sprinkler system deploying, would hasten their departure just a tad...
My point was that hopefully Jon (and other newbies) will scedule a session, stay for the approximate time, and NOT drive other girls to simmilar diabolical daydreams... ha.
I was recently in the same position as you. I met with my first ever provider two weeks ago. I booked a 3 hour session and was glad I did. I did my research and picked a provider that I felt comfortable with and all went very well. If you feel you have picked the right provider (I guess you will never truly know till you meet) then maybe a multi hour session may be worth the gamble.
Jon54...are we still talking about your summer trip to San Diego, when you'll have this magical first session? And you're agonizing about a 1 hour session vs a 2 hour session for an appointment that's 3 months away?
My brother, please stop talking about this stupid San Diego trip. Take all the good advice you've gotten here (and pay particular attention to the advice from providers), join a screening service today, and book a provider for this week. Stop-playing-games.
I'm 47, not far agewise from you, and here's a secret: the girls today are no different from the girls back-in-the-day. They will respond to kindness, honesty, and respect. Good luck, --z
Jon, I think I would book one hour, see how it goes this time and then decide what you want next based on your new education. I usually do 1 hour sessions, but sometimes do 2 hour, and have done a 4 hour, but I like to meet the lady first and see how we get along in a one hour session before booking longer. In the end, it is your decision, if you have the cash, go for as many hours as you think you can enjoy. It is up to you!
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