my main concerns are:
1. she is not a LE sting
2. she is not a scammer
3. her pictures are accurate - i don’t care if she is older but the physique must be accurate (i am heterosexual)
4. she does bbbj

reviews eliminate doubt about all of the above

i don’t have experience with this, but i would make an exception if a provider recommended someone

Firstly, just checking but have you searched for yourself here and made sure you don’t have any reviews? It’s not at all unheard of for a provider to have reviews here and not know it.  

 
Anyways, keep posting on the boards, just having a presence. Especially on your regional board and your local ad board.  

 
Honestly, this “community of experienced providers” that you mentioned is your best bet. If any of them have reviews, that is. A couple of them could send one or two of their regulars your way. Obviously it would be most helpful if the ones they sent were on TER. Or at least they could give you a shoutout on here. Respond to some of your posts, kind of give you their endorsement so to speak.  

 
It’s been a long time since I’ve seen someone with no or only one or two reviews because the risk profile has changed. When I have done it, what I looked for first was stability basically. I look at has she been around for a while on the ad sites without changing her name or number? Is she logging in to her ad sites or P411 or whatever it is often? If she’s around for a few months at least without changing her contact info or just disappearing, she probably isn’t a scam or LE.  

 
The rest of what I looked for is hard to quantify. It’s intangible. You spend a few years looking at ads and websites and eventually you develop a spidey sense about it. Hard to explain. So just try to be genuine, I guess.  

 
I guess I will add in that having a SM presence helps people know you’re legit, apparently. I think that’s complete bologna, but that’s just my opinion. I just know I’ve seen a lot of people say they think having an active SM account means the provider is legit. Again, I don’t agree, but if other people think so… 🤷‍♂️