Hello,

First post, long time lurker.

I was curious how many date requests the lady's get, where their date just wants some affectionate cuddling and kissing, and playful touching? I'm considering my first experience. Married, great family, love my wife...but just need some companionship perhaps. Seems like the flame has died a bit.

Would probably end up wanting a helping hand, or even just an audience for my own helping hand. So while I doubt this the norm, I am curious how much of an exception this would actually be. Really just looking for some good conversation followed by a lot of flirting and making out. Am I crazy, lol?  Thanks for your patience with the nervous Noob question.

Also, which discussion board might have the most active posts (other than the reviews section) for ladies in Nashville. I live in FL but get to Nashville for business, and would only set something up with a TER lady.

Thanks again.  

Hey there,
Your desires are completely normal, and in my opinion, more wanted than the sex crazed guy who wants to fuck you like you're a porn star.  A lot of clients actually do just want conversation over sex, or intimacy over pure sex.  Definitely look for a provider who is a GFE -we specialize in that type on interaction.  I would love to have you as a client, but unfortunatley I'm in New Jersey.  Good luck to you!
Luv,
Persia aka Maya

Of course, be respectful and stay within the limits of the lady's menu. My atf told me about a client that just wanted to hold hands and talk. Remember, you're buying the lady's time. Good luck

I would advise a few things...

1. Get verified - find out which service is used mostly in Nashville (p411, Date-Check, etc.)  If you do not have any references, most quality ladies will want some verification agency.

2. Do research - I often spend a lot of time reading reviews and doing research to find a handful of ladies that seem like they would be compatible with me.  Are you looking younger, older, specific body type, etc.  Read the reviews - I agree that GFE is what you really want, but in the reviews you can see which ladies are fun to be with, can talk on a range of subjects, etc.  

3. See her again - if you really enjoy your first encounter with a lady, and are going to be back in the area again.  I would try to see her again - perhaps over time, the intimacy will grow into more than cuddling, but if you keep seeing new ladies all the time, that chemistry/trust may not develop...

I'd say this isn't all that unusual.  I know in my first foray (just recently) into the hobby, I wasn't sure at all what I really wanted out of an encounter other than (as the survivor of a recent divorce) I didn't want to play 'the dating game'.  My first experience wound up being with an amazingly smart and witty lady, and we basically just cuddled, kissed and 'fooled around' while chatting for two hours.  I can't even review that experience on TER because it didn't hit all the required 'notes' for a high score, but it was an amazing experience and I have repeated many times since.  I have also now seen other providers which are just a 'fun fuck' but with none of the closeness of that first provider.

The best thing I can suggest to find that sort of thing is just to read reviews (as is always suggested) obsessively and find a provider that seems to give 'REAL' GFE... not just the physical aspects.  If the provider has a website, sometimes you can glean a bit more of their personality from that, just make sure it's backed up by good reviews or good word-of-mouth from sites like this.

Finally, though, I do have to ask:  do you think you are looking for just kissing/touching/conversation as a way to rationalize visiting a provider?  I'm not being judgemental, I'm just wondering if you are 'holding back' because you think you'd be comitting a greater offense?  You don't have to answer, I'm just genuinely curious.

new on here- do i need to be vip? i tryed and it wouldnt acceopt my debit card- can any one help0 me- with this? xo- saber angel     revere.

That's it? If hj's make you uncomfortable, then do something else like BJWC (bj with condom) perhaps?

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letting him know his desire it isn't unusual. Where in the heck did you get the idea I was uncomfortable w/ a hj? If you've looked at my site at all, you'll know I'm fs w/ the islands to boot. I like it ALL!

Stay w/ the conversation Opulent...

manual at the top of the page. It'll give you the answers.