Newbie - FAQ
From what i've read on the boards it appears that when emailing the person the following would be best, this is pretty much what I wrote. Suggestions on possible errors/improvement would be appreciated:
Hi (Dear, Hello, Whatsup (prob not)) (name),
Saw your (profile and/or ad) on (Ter, somewhere else) and was hoping to see you for a (1/2, 1, 2hr) (incall or outcall) session in (midtown, queens,e tc) on (date I guess a 2-4days heads up). If not I was hoping for (2nd date option) around (time-time) or (time-time). (you either say) My previous reference are____ and____ and can be contacted at ___ and ___ respectfully. (or) Unfortunately I do not have any references. I do however have (a verification option) (or) I was hoping a work number would be okay? It is (Insert your work number and extension if you have one.) I work for (name of place) they know me as (nickname if you have) and the best time to call would be (time-time). I am usually working (schedule) and would be there on (date) during (time-time) if you would like to contact me direct at (place you work). The best time would be around (time).
Email would be fine, or you can call me on my cell (cell or hobby phone here) during (time) and (time). (if you have full texting support on your phone say) Please feel free to text me as well. (I ask this cause my phone is strange and sometimes does not get text from other cellphone providers) (Now here is something I'm not sure would be necessary.) I was wondering if you would like or prefer to meet somewhere else first to get acquainted better before the actual session. (I think this is a no-no and I ask this to a provider that didn't write back. It seems that LE would like to redirect where a session would take place. Like trick the provider by going to THEIR home court advantage. Maybe I over thought that, but it was the only reason I can think of of no response.) So, it's probably best to omit that.
How to hear from you soon,
(name)
(email & phone)
I still think it's too wordy and too business like but I think it's polite and non intrusive and provides the information a provider would want/need. That was pretty much more or less what I typed up for myself, it's pretty much how I write as well. So your own personality would reflect on how you write. (well... mine's I guess if you want to fashion your email based on that.) It's better than writing something vulgar, rude, or way too direct.
For the menu, If everyone said "amazing time" I'm going to assume it would be an "amazing time" for me as well. Hopefully. Specifics aren't that important to me, but if you really want to know, I suppose getting the paid membership would be best. Again, I have the same level as experience as you. I think I made a mistake and asked personal questions and prob. scare one potential provider away. And then I realize I asked questions that was already answered on her site. I think like me, you want to get all your questions answered by confirming before continuing. Its more of nerves and the reasurance of asking questions to put those nerves at ease. Necessary? No.
My personal opinion? You don't need to have all those questions answered. It's like going to the most amazing movie you haven't seen yet. Why ask what will happen and spoil the experience? Just ejoy the experience as it happens. 
You can ask something vague and say you want to do everything she would like to do during the session. Not specific, that could be anything. She should know what you mean and if anythign is extra would list it then.