ALONE first to be sure that they at Sympatico.

That is very important.

Me and the hubby just did this in vegas a few months ago, but I was the one who found the girl and set it all up, everything had to be on MY terms, we did meet for drinks before hand, and that really help, it also help if the provider is your wifes "TYPE" so i would first see what she is looking for in a woman and go from there, as far as including you, i think she will be fine once it gets started, make sure the lady you have chosen is willing to make it mostly about your wife, she will after a while want you to join in. but MY biggest thing was being comfortable with the lady chosen, she had to be MY kind of woman (i like curvy,busty women), so try to get her a little more involved in the process.  this was our/my first time and all i can say is OMG why did i wait so long,and i cant wait to do it again!!!!!    Good luck and enjoy.

It sounds as though you have already selected the escort and are asking about do's and don'ts during the session.  

A true professional is going to make your wife comfortable and enjoy the experience. "Simpatico" is no more important for FF play as it is for MF play. It's up to the provider to make your wife feel wonderful. That's why you chose a professional versus picking someone up in a bar or going to a swinger site.  

As for what you should or shouldn't do, focus on your wife and read her responses to the situation but leave it to her and the provider to find their way together. Think of it as a gift to your wife rather than fulfilling your own fantasy. If she is empowered to make this about her, rather than worrying about putting on a show for you, she will likely enjoy the experience more.  

If you haven't already, make sure your wife approves (or better yet, selects) the provider. While the escorts personal preferences are not important as she is a professional, your wife's attraction to her is critical.  

Before the appointment make sure you have sufficient communication with the provider to ensure your wife will have a great time. The provider should be sympathetic to the situation and eager to ensure a good time.  

I hope you both have a ball. In my experience with FF play, there invariably comes a time when a cock is mandatory!

xoxo
Ray

Hi,

I just saw your question.  I actually see many  couples and I LOVE it!!! I am very bisexual so I love being with a woman.  But I have had tons of different experiences.  When I am with a couple who has done this before I just go for it. I even had a husband leave me in his wife because he was exhausted between the two of us  because we are both multi orgasmic and could go all night lol. But her and I had a blast all night!

But recently I had a new couple and I talked to her on the phone and could feel she was going to be a bit jealous and insecure.  We met for dinner and her husband was very intrigued by me but I think a little too much.   He kept holding my hand and touching my leg at dinner and ignoring her.  She stepped out to use the bathroom and I suggested since it was her first time lets make her the focus.  Maybe he shouldn't even touch me and I can give her an amazing time, bring her over to the other side and he would get a great show and finish off with her.

Well he didn't do that.  It was an over night and at the end he kept trying to cuddle with me and I honestly felt he should have been cuddling with her.  She was stunningly beautiful and brought out all the tricks and toys and matching lingerie so I know she had a great time.  But I don't know if she will do this again because he focused way too much on me.  We still keep in contact and her and I have become friends but I think on the first time if there is any sense that your wife may feel a little uncomfortable, may her the focus of the night and get a great show.
Ease her into it and I am sure she will open up more and more. Because it is really fun and a provider is not trying to steal her husband.  Just my two cents
Savanna