I dabbled in hobbying a little back in 2001 and again 2009, but I was younger and terrified of LE.  And back then, I didn't even know about this type of site.  I just looked at EROS and CL back in 09, and I forget how I found the providers in 2001.

I see now the "trend" (a DAMN GOOD one) is having a site like this where getting references is a 2-way street.  Obviously, I can research who has a lot of good reviews so that I can know it a provider most likely legit.  But the other side of 2-way street is that providers can check me out to make sure I am safe.  BTW I think this idea is GREAT!

But.... I am in a tough spot.

Since I am getting back into hobbying, but on this site for the 1st time, what do I need to do to help YOU all feel safe with me, as far as meeting me since I don't have any references from providers yet (aka, this guy is cool)?

Any advice I can get to help you all feel safe, please let me know.  I can TOTALLY understand the need for this, but also when someone like me is not "on the inside" yet, with references, how do I get my "foot in the door"?  What's the right "process" so I don't stress any provider out with fear of LE?

Later!

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I have come to find out that there is a lot of bad providers [bait n switch, fake ads, and even spammers) as well as great providers (I've been with 2 thanks to this site so the best way to approach a non insider is get a hobby phone and make sure she can send you a text with mms and then delete the picture in front of her as soon as you see her. That's a great way to bridge a gap. Hopefully there are more ideas but this is it for me. I hope it helps.

For starters become a paid VIP member here if you haven't already, that way you can read the full reviews.

Second see only well reviewed ladies at least until you've had more experience and know the red flags to watch out for so you dont end up in the room with LE or having a bad experience or worse.

Third join Datecheck or P411 so you can be screened.  If you dont have any provider references you are probably going to need to look for ladies who are newbie friendly the first couple of times.

Join one of the verification sites.  See which is most prevalent in your area.  Preferred411 does have on providers' profiles indication of whether or not they are newbie friendly, this makes it easier for guys in your situation that have no references.

Get VIP membership here and read the self help center, link is at the top of the page under the life preserver.  Sticking to well-reviewed providers is a very good way to avoid LEO.  There is no right 'process' for not stressing out a provider.  If she has lots of reviews from reviewers with lots of reviews, the chances of her being in cahoots with LE are very slim.

Relax and enjoy.

Swim

time and that's  very active interacting on this board and tell her whom you really are along with employment info.
Go see her she says so (follow her lead at all times) and be a sweet man (ask swim).
Ask her for a reference to see another Provider.
Write reviews and other ladies probably won't request your personal info based on the Providers you'd seen.