Posted By: Debra_Hollander
Posted By: whetdick
are thinner condoms more popular and more commonly used in this hobby?
I've always used the thin or ultra-thin ones. When I've done duos with other ladies, that's what they've usually had too.
Well, except for one provider I knew who always had a mixed assortment that she picked up free from Planned Parenthood or a similar place lol.
Posted By: whetdick
I have my first appointment ever on monday, and was gonna buy a box of trojan bareskin, but I'd rather go empty handed of course if she already has these or similar.
For your first P4P date, I strongly suggest you go with the flow, and shimmy into whatever she has on hand.
Posted By: whetdick
Also, there are simple ways to check an individual condom's integrity (air resistance, lubricity, expiration date, etc), so why is there such a big concern about needing an unopened box and johns poking holes in the condom?
If I brought my own, I would have her inspect them before any activity started and let her put it on.
Personally, on the rare occasion someone asks me to use what he brought, I usually find it to be an awkward moment.
Generally, the gentleman has presented them at the beginning at the date, when I'm still not completely comfortable with him: we've just gotten the donation & ID out of the way and then he says, "oh I brought these, if that's ok!"...sigh.
So you just gave me an envelope and now you want me to give you a yea or nay to condoms? NO. Wait a little bit.
But later isn't great for me either. We're ready to go, I reach towards the bedside table and suddenly he says: "oh I brought my own!" and lurches off the bed towards his discarded pants or backpack, to fish them out. I always say I prefer to use my own, which I do. I know mine are good, as I've already checked them.
Even if they're in a box, I at least have to check the expiration date on the box. Which means flicking on the lights and sliding on my oh-so-sexy reading glasses. Meanwhile, my partners "attention" is flagging.
However, on a second date with someone, I don't mind at all if he presents them at the beginning of the date. But I still prefer they be in the box, and not just because I find it reassuring.
In the box, the writing is bigger and makes it easier for me to see if they've got spermicide or warming lube or anything else that causes a bad reaction for me. Ditto for the Exp. date.
Besides, following the linked instructions for checking a condom does NOT say to someone, "yeah baby I really liked you last time, feel totally comfy with you and can't wait to jump your bones again".
No, it screams "you're still nothing more than a not-to-be trusted trick to me!"....... so let's just avoid that, shall we?
Good advice from escort about condoms