so i made a phone call to a provider with many reviews, and, very active in feb. she picked up. but then she pulled the most weird thing.. she talked about rates on the phone. she said, it was for visiting, and we didn't talk about anything else. but i have done my ter reading (god bless ter) and i could have sworn she should not have mentioned rates. thoughts? advice? go or no go? she is well reviewed
Some ladies prefer to not put rates on websites and handle it over the phone. It makes me uncomfortable as well but as long as there is no discussion of activities, it will be fine. Top that off with a high number of reviews and you shouldn't worry.
To be honest, if it is some sort of elaborate sting, there is no need to talk about rates on the phone. She'll just ask you what you want when you show up and that's all it will take. I get much more uncomfortable when the fully clothed lady asks me what I want than I do about a mention of rates with no service discussion.
But you shouldn't worry. There is always some risk of a sting but it is extremely small with a lady with many reviews.
Thanks for the insight. I have another question though. You said:
I get much more uncomfortable when the fully clothed lady asks me what I want than I do about a mention of rates with no service discussion
So have you been in a situation where a provider showed up, fully clothed, and asked you what you want? if yes, what did you do? did you:
"wrong address... bye!!"
or got on with it? Any one else have thoughts?
They were providers with plenty of reviews so that I gave a vague answer about just going with the flow and then kissed them. That's the benefit of a provider with many reviews. I'm not going to be worried that it's a sting operation because the lady may have a year or two worth of reviews from 30 guys.
Is there a small probability that she has gotten caught up in some serious trouble and is working with LE? Of course, but it is so rare that if I got paranoid at every little thing I'd spend half my time walking out of appointments. That would make it hard to get/keep good references and forcing visits to providers that don't screen and the attendant risks with that.
I subscribe to the view that once you are in the room, if it's a sting, you've got problems no matter what you do. But I still get a twinge when asked what I want.
It isnt appropriate for a man to ask rates-
If a lady , well reviewed lady, wants to speak of it -
She is making sure you are both on the same page=
no two girls run their business the same -
I had contacted a provider from her Eros add which didn't list any rates. Months latter she contacted me by email and then by phone about seeing me. I had no choice to ask what her rates were, for I would have to know what she charged prior to meeting her. It is the only time but guess not that uncommon.
I didn't ask her how many dollars however, I asked how many roses...lol
Thats because you have all your ducks in a row- haha
Some people make it look easy, cause it IS!!
Some people put too much work into it -
Find a girl with good reviews
email her info
see her
ta da
Rocket Science!
Woops...now the secret is out, your secret admirer has been outed...that's what happens when you have a big bill...ha..ha
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tend to stay away. Just not comfortable talking about rates on the phone. But that's just me.
having a phone discussion about rates is very uncomfortable for most girls but it does nothing to prove you had sex with that women. Follow her ques.