Hey CND,
Looks like you did everything you can in regards to this provider. You did nothing wrong from what I can tell.
In regards to provider giving you references that are not in the town where you were staying, that provider isn't on top of things. She should have known better to give you references outside that town you were in. Not a smart move on her part.
As far as the provider getting a review on the same day that you were supposed to meet her, I would not jump the gun on this one because some guys take a while to post a review of a provider. I've done it a month after the fact, but it shows up on that month that I posted. That's the way TER timestamps the reviews.
Serpius
She apologizes in the e mail, and asked whether she can help with a referral. I say yes, she provides a list of names. I interpreted this offer as using her reputation and contacts to help. I promptly answer and ask some logistical questions, and then she goes completely dark. No response for hours. I don't want to be a pain in the ass, but finally e mail again. She then responds, but by then it is so late that there is no time left for recovery. I then find out that two of the three "referrals" are not even in town. I am not not interested in the third.
So what does it mean, when a provider offers a referral like this? Is a referral just a list of names, as this turned out? I consider myself pretty patient and understanding, but this experience has left a pretty bad taste in my mouth about how the situation was handled. To top things off a new review shows up here on the very day we are supposed to meet. Her reviews are not very frequent. Should I feel this way, or is this just how things go?
I booked an appointment with an extremely well reviewed provider on a business trip. I built my schedule around making sure the logistics were going to work. Confirmed the day before. Three hours prior to the meeting and after I advise of exactly where to meet (location agreed to in advance), I am advised that she is canceling due to coming down with an illness. Disappointing, but understandable.
She apologizes in the e mail, and asked whether she can help with a referral. I say yes, she provides a list of names. I interpreted this offer as using her reputation and contacts to help. I promptly answer and ask some logistical questions, and then she goes completely dark. No response for hours. I don't want to be a pain in the ass, but finally e mail again. She then responds, but by then it is so late that there is no time left for recovery. I then find out that two of the three "referrals" are not even in town. I am not not interested in the third.
So what does it mean, when a provider offers a referral like this? Is a referral just a list of names, as this turned out? I consider myself pretty patient and understanding, but this experience has left a pretty bad taste in my mouth about how the situation was handled. To top things off a new review shows up here on the very day we are supposed to meet. Her reviews are not very frequent. Should I feel this way, or is this just how things go?
more. I doubt she called each one to ask if they were in town, and she was sick so that might explain the lack of fast responses. In this situations, I normally offer a discount or extra time on the next booking, which quite frankly we don't have to. Guys pull this crap with us all the time, and we get NOTHING even though we are out of money we could have made. Guys were going to spend that money from the start, so in your case you actually SAVED whatever her fee was. It's not something to be chipper about for sure, but welcome to the biz. Things happen on both ends.
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Hobbyists have 90 days to post a review. And the review process can take anywhere from 1 hr to 4 or 5 days. So that's total coincidence.
If I ever cancel on someone with that short of notice, I am going to offer them the fee in full, no matter why I cancelled. The lady should not be out the fee, due to my issue.
case she would be dumb not to get a deposit, these things just happen. I am sorry for your time being wasted as you seem like a stand up guy. I wish I could say "Do better research" but that won't change it either. The best of the best get sick, tired, have an emergency, etc. I would contact her again and ask if there is any way she could let you know when she will be in YOUR city, vs. you having to make a special trip. Best of luck.
Hey CND,
Looks like you did everything you can in regards to this provider. You did nothing wrong from what I can tell.
In regards to provider giving you references that are not in the town where you were staying, that provider isn't on top of things. She should have known better to give you references outside that town you were in. Not a smart move on her part.
As far as the provider getting a review on the same day that you were supposed to meet her, I would not jump the gun on this one because some guys take a while to post a review of a provider. I've done it a month after the fact, but it shows up on that month that I posted. That's the way TER timestamps the reviews.
Serpius
She apologizes in the e mail, and asked whether she can help with a referral. I say yes, she provides a list of names. I interpreted this offer as using her reputation and contacts to help. I promptly answer and ask some logistical questions, and then she goes completely dark. No response for hours. I don't want to be a pain in the ass, but finally e mail again. She then responds, but by then it is so late that there is no time left for recovery. I then find out that two of the three "referrals" are not even in town. I am not not interested in the third.
So what does it mean, when a provider offers a referral like this? Is a referral just a list of names, as this turned out? I consider myself pretty patient and understanding, but this experience has left a pretty bad taste in my mouth about how the situation was handled. To top things off a new review shows up here on the very day we are supposed to meet. Her reviews are not very frequent. Should I feel this way, or is this just how things go?
We're all human and things unexpectedly happen.
At least she called and cancelled. She didn't NCNS. If she really was sick, you wouldn't want to be with her anyway, as at the worst you could catch something, and at the least, you would not have an enjoyable session because she would not be into it. She was nice enough to try to give you referrals, and as London said, she probably did not check to see if they were available. her not responding to you could also have been that she was truly sick, and just didn't check emails. she may have been in bed. She gave you the referral names, then shut down.
Could it have been something else? She got a better offer and was with someone else? Sure that is possible, but shit happens and people do get sick. I would give her the benefit of the doubt, and be thankful that at least she did contact you, and didn't just pull a no show.
As hiddenhills said, the review timing is purely coincidental. That meeting could have happened last week or 3 moths ago.
It sucks to make all the arragnements and be ready and then get cancelled on, but life happens. Move on and find someone else for next time. Or if you really wanted to see her, you could contact her, and say "Sorry it didn't work out. Hope you're feeling better. Thanks for the referrals but unfortunately they didn't work out either. Maybe next time." She may offer you a discount on a future session, or she may just rock your world next time. That is if you are in her area again since it was a business trip.
Some guys will give up on a lady after one issue like this. Others try again, and wish they hadn't. Others try again and have a great time. so it is up to you wher you go from here, but don't dwell on what already happened.
Good luck
All this sounds like to me is either 1) she really was sick (it does happen) or 2) she got a better offer! Either way, file it away, be wary of prebooking with her in the future and do what I do, be ready to jump to plan "B" as soon as it starts going south! Same thing just happened to me tonight on something I set up three days ago. I must admit, I was a bit taken aback when the girl I set things up with was honest enough to tell me "I got a big job in the Hamptons." Bully for you, but you worked your way off my short list! Move on & remember my mantra here: it's a buyer's market!
Well I have another appointment on this trip and if it happens again, I will be making a paper mâché doll out of the cash I won't be spending. At least that one wouldn't be a no-show.
The bottom line here is that even some of the most well-reviewed girls flake sometimes and unless you want to engage in behavior that risks a felony stalking conviction, the legitimacy of the reasons will remain a mystery! This really is the reason I avoid advance booking, in my experience, it seems to get fucked up more often than not!
heard of one guy having to mess with so many flakes when the ones who demand you pre-book are usually the ones who do it for a reason. In four years I have had to cancel 3 times, and in each case it was because the guy did NOT give me more than 24 hours notice and something happened. I agree that you should always have a plan B though..just in case. Many of us do the same, unless you send a deposit.