I’ve been with a few providers and each time I meet a new one, this dilemma arises. Most providers give strong warnings about using explicit language in email and even when talking over the phone when having that first “getting to know you” conversation. But, if you wait until you meet in person, it may be too late for details that you would be interested in because she may not be prepared at that point (ex. bringing toys, dressing up, play acting, and the like). When is a good time to tell her these things, but without breaking her rules and risk losing the date?
My first meetings were with ladies who posted on the board. I kind of knew them from their board personalities, and when I first contacted them I would reference something they had posted about. My introductory email would contain more than the minimum about me, and might mention a couple of things that really turn me on; nothing too nasty, just a few things that were kind of fun.
When it's a completely unknown provider, you are just going to have to see her once or twice before bringing up the subject. If you have proven yourself to be safe and generous, there should be few limits on what you can request. Of course, you should be prepared to back off if there is little enthusiasm for your desires, but I'm betting you will find that you can usually get to where you want to go.
like i just did, that is not afraid to ask you, even while she is doing it, "what do u like". When she is sucking on the knob and i need more suction or faster up and down....she listens. She could teach a glass on GFE.
Well lets see, in your list, a clothing request (dressing up) is usually ok, as long as it's not phrased in a sexual way. Many times I ask for a clothing request in my initial email and have NEVER had a problem. Now as far as the toys and play acting, those are both borderline and I would not ask in an initial email or phone call. However, once the lady has screened you to her satisfaction, some ladies will entertain your requests at that time. You still have to be very careful in how you phrase a request. Toys and play acting may be covered on the providers site or in the juicy details (VIP will be required to read) of a review. The last provider I saw had mentioned in her reviews, an "industrial strength vibrator" and sure enough during our session I got to experience it first hand. However, the hobby is always YMMV so what you read about in a review may not be offered to you. Another suggestion is you bring a toy, of course it needs to be new, in the original unopened box. I've brought new toys on a number of occasions and it's aways a hit. Now I have a question for you, when are you going to write a review?
This is why it is so important to read reviews and find out before hand what is and isn't on the menu.
Sometimes I ask for a kinky kind of thing (COF, for example), and no one has hitherto mentioned this in a review. Sometimes a gal will say no, and that's cool. Sometimes they'll say yes, which is even better. Sometimes they'll start by saying no but then later say go ahead and cream me. Those are interestingly, the best.
I've given one or two gals over the years their first COF, and usually they like it. (Keep it out of their eyes, however!)
There is nothing illegal about attire and toys as long as sex and money are not mentioned, and quite frankly if I have already verified you, there is no reason for me not to trust you. If I don't, I would not let you in the door.
What is worse is when guys say nothing about certain things during a date and you think they like what you're doing, just to find out they would have liked it faster, slower, less intense etc. We are hookers, not psychics so please keep it PG rated via email, but let us know a little about what you are looking for. There are ways of asking without sounding like Hustler.
I want to know a little before the date. If you don't want a regular session and are looking for something specific, I want to know as soon as possible so I can decline you if need be and let you continue your search.
There are ways of asking politely that are not illegal. Telling me you adore seeing a woman in fishnet stockings and stripper boots while doing cartwheels over the bed - I want to know rather than show up and find out you are disappointed because I dont do any of that.
If you are looking for certain sexual acts - thats what reviews are for. Read the reviews, and read the lady's website, you should have a good idea of what is or isn't allowed without ever having to ask.
I agree with London and Naomi. Once you have been verified, go ahead and mention what you like. Certain acts or fetishes are things you can find on her site or in her reviews.
This is a really tricky subject! Sometimes I get good vibes about a guy and if they are a newbie I won't get upset when they ask a sexual question. For me, if I have verified you then asking a few "personal" questions is ok. Asking flat out "Do you do anal?" or something like that is not OK and I refer them to my reviews as I have so many now that almost everything I do is in one or another review. If it is a clothing request I don't mind at all them asking.
Look at her reviews and possibly message he reviewers and see what she offers. If after looking at her reviews you still aren't sure ask. Such as "I was looking at your reviews but I am confused about whether or not you do roleplay?" Some sites like naughtyreviews.com, p411 etc. the provider will list what services he offers.(but do be weary because sometimes providers will lie)
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