I'm a little confused as to what a provider does with an employment reference from a potential client.  Does she call the company and pretend to be verifying a mortgage application?  Does she call just to see if they recognize my name?  Does she call and ask to speak to my boss - lol?  This is a little scary to me as I work for a small insurance company in the midwest, and we all know each other pretty well.  If I worked for a big corporation it wouldn't matter, I guess.  Thanks for all replies.

She is calling to verify your identity. Most often all they do is ask for your extension or, if you don't have one, they will say that they are calling to confirm a doctor or dentists appointment and then hang up. Relax, She doesn't want to talk to your boss and she doesn't care how much money you make or what your co-workers think of you.

What the more professional ones generally do is call the receptionist/switchboard and ask for you to verify that you work there and then hang up as the call is being transferred to you.

No one should even mention a doctor's appointment or anything that someone in the office will ask him about. That raises suspicion when he's asked and doesn't have a response.

I either call and ask for him, then they transfer me to his extension. I hang up in the process.  Or:  If the receptionist/office worker says that he's not there and can he/she take a message, then I say, "That's okay. I'm going to be out of my office for awhile. I'll try him back later. Thank you."

Hugs,
Ciara

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You have a pm.

Any lady who wants more info can pm me as well.  

In a public forum, I will not divulge further screening methods nor discuss why this is such an easy one to work around to cause problems for a lady.

xoxo,
Sola

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One of my favorite providers want to talk to you. She asks you to give her your business extension and time you'll be able to talk. Then she calls. The chat itself is innocent enough. No hanging up or little lies or anything weird. And she's a super neat person so it's always a nice conversation.

Good point. Thanks, hon.  Actually, I don't just rely on work information. My top concern is getting reliable references from reliable providers. If he's a new client, I check him out thoroughly. The office call is just a back-up, but thank you so much for your concern.

I believe if you read my response to the original post again, you would see that I was only answering the question about how someone calls and not alerts their work partners.

Hugs,
Ciara

Any new lady reading this thread who is not networked enough to know better is going to be putting herself in danger by doing work verifications via a hang up call.  I only want to put out the alert that this is NOT sufficient verification, for anyone who may think it is.

That's great that you are thorough and don't just rely on this.
: )

Yes, she will call to verify your employment there for a loan, confirm a doctor or dental appointment or some other business.

Once I had a lady call to talk to me to be sure I did work where I said I did.  Once you get several reviews under your belt and become a regular poster, a lot of ladies will use provider references to verify you.

Only give out what information you are comfortable with giving out.  Whatever you do, do not give out your DL or SSN.

Normally they are contacting your employer to learn as much as they can about your penis size. As you probably know, many providers have definite preferences in penis size. Many don't like them too big, but some like them on the larger side. They speak to a bunch of people in your office assuming that someone will have first hand knowledge of the size of your shlong. Maybe they've seen you peeing in the company restroom or they slept with you. -

Again, let me reiterate by stating that I was merely answering the question about phone calls and being discrete with an employer. The original post did not say anything about other ways to check references. It was solely about what to say on the phone. I know . . . it's okay. We all misunderstand each other at some point in time. However, I thank you for bringing that to my attention so I could explain that it isn't my only form of verification, and I would hope that new ladies wouldn't just make a phone call like that and that's all. Yikes!

Hugs,
Ciara





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She doesn't trust provider references. She finds this more reliable.

OTOH she's always a doll about providing references.

my penis size before seeing me. It's a bummer when they don't have any magnum XL condoms or enough lube for me to get it in.... ' and if they *really* don't like size, we can skip the experiment and I can move on....

I hope you are joking about this.  I have no privacy so there is really no good time to call.  I'm trying to avoid a conversation at the office for this reason.  IMHO, just having the name recognized by someone at the business should be enough, and that any other screening phone call could be done via the home number.

Anyway, thank you very much for your insights into this process!

Hmmmmm, this could be a problem in my case.  I haven't slept with any of the women in our small office, and, fortunately, there are modesty panels in the men's room.

All providers are different. I didn't mean to imply that this one provider's approach was standard. I understand your anxiety.

Why don't you give her the scenario that will work for you.  That way you will be ready, and the questions will fit.

Do your company have a website and you name and number is listed then the provider can use that.  When I owned my own business, my wx-wife was the receptionist, so I directed the provider to my website with my pic and of course when I showed up she recognized my pic.

A screening service that I use never called but I directed them the company website on my application, with my name and extension they verified me. Granted it was a huge company but sceening is screening

If a gentleman works full time for a corporation and his name and picture is on his company's website (not that this will guarantee that you're not LE), then it is fairly safe to say that if his picture and name match his I.D. at the door, it's also a good way to verify someone. It's still a scary thing with someone new no matter how you look at it.

Hugs,
ciara

U say midwest not sure where but in my part of the midwest, cops use references of small and big corproations and they don't work there but wives, so's and friends wives and so's do!
if u ask for the guy, they say he is out of office or in a meeting, would you like his extension?
the only way to be sure about that is go through human resources and that is a big hassle & not easy!
so just checking a workplace is not sufficient by any means.
join a place such as p411 or rs2k.

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Point taken, although you are screened through employment, you are not verified until you have seen a provider who is a verified member.  In fact, some VIP member you have to have three verified references