While I do have a work phone/number for vendor calls and my fellow colleagues, I chose not to share it with clients. There are dozens of reasons, the least being getting dick pic texts :p
I'm curious- do any of you NOT see a provider simply because she doesn't provide a phone number? I don't provide one, because I don't like my day to day life interrupted, and I'm not always by a computer and able to screen on the spot. From my limited experience accepting phone calls while touring it seems like a lot of the guys that call are total wankers and the ones that aren't want to see me right away, which I don't do when I'm at home in NYC. I just updated my website, however, and set up a thorough contact form. I'm thinking about accepting calls just to direct people towards filling out that form. Will that make a difference? Looking for input from both providers and hobbyists. Thank you!
I have seen many providers that are email only. Some who gave out a phone number only at the last minute to get directions,or a room number, and some who were strictly email right on through the date, without ever having a voice conversation.
If there is a choice of email or phobe, I will always choose email. With ladies that only have a phone number contact, I usually use text. I'm not much of a phone call guy.
Not a single appointment was made by any of those dudes. Not. One. Directing them to my contact form didn't make one iota of a difference.
My (admittedly limited) experience says don't bother. The ones who are worth your time know how to read and follow instructions.
I have come to prefer email or better yet P411 for our first contact. I no longer try for last minute appointments and things seem to go much smoother. If my lady takes time to do good screening for everyone, I feel its safer for both of us, and last minute phone dates seem to me like good screening would be difficult......but I'm not a screener it's just my humble opinion.
Phone for the approach. When to switch is her call.
Who tends to my phones but I reply to emails and look at contact forms myself. I find that Email only is also an alternatively specially if you don't have time to be on the phone. Some providers find that having the contact form filled out shows how serious the guy is but, that is not always true, some guys are old school and prefer to have the "human touch over the phone". I know girls who require the potential date to fill out the form and once screening is performed and he checks out, they will call him.
Either way, I think that at some point you do want to establish phone contact in order to see if you click as communication and chemistry are essential on a date.
But, to each his/her own. I see ads every day, some say phone only, some say email. If you don't feel comfortable calling her, move on. We all have our preferences. Do what you're comfortable with.
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...all info by e-mail. I expect to get a phone number after passing screening if one isn't posted somewhere. I only call on the day of the appointment to confirm in the morning & then to let her know I'm there so she can give me the room/apartment number. This is the procedure I have grown accustomed to since all of the ladies I see do it this way. I have seen one that is by phone but it's not my preferred way. I did also see one that wanted a phone conversation as part of screening. Once I've seen the lady a few times all of this is interchangeable. But I still initiate a date with e-mail.
I'd say stick with what your doing. It does make sense to me to text or call on the day of since the need for contact is more immediate.
My form makes my life so much easier, and that's purely for organizational/time-saving purposes. My website automatically deletes all screening profiles after 7 days, and I'm sure it's not just my web service that does that. I just don't get the paranoia over contact forms. Especially when, for some of us, they really expedite the screening process.
I'd say stick with what your doing. It does make sense to me to text or call on the day of since the need for contact is more immediate.
This link is long-winded as hell but contains lots of valuable information.
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True, which is why I actually tell guys NOT to put personal info. on a form. You can simply put your handle, refs, P411, date, time, etc. but if you have real info to give me, just tell me you do, vs. putting it over the form. I have a fake (non-escort) email set up for guys to do that through. I would never tell a guy to email my hooker account that had an auto response (lol) from his business email.
I have a form, but I also give men an option to email me directly.
Although that article might as well have been in Swahili as far as I'm concerned haha.
My issue with the form thing is this: 99.9% of the time when a guy insists upon emailing me his info instead of filling out my form, it's because he wants to skip some of the required fields.
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...any of the required info you want. But it would be in an e-mail. The guys that leave out some of what you ask for I hope are just careless. I can't see why they would object to you having it. Seems they would likely be guys you wouldn't want to see anyway.
Early on I had a couple annoying experiences with forms. Auto response, no response or a response a couple of weeks later. I realize the technology is probably more efficient these days. Now I use their email, even when the instructions are to use the form. Most of the time they take the info and do the screening. When they insist on Me using the form, I might go back and use it, or I might not . . . ![]()
the provider (she can answer me when time allows) and for me, the hobby phone stays in it's hiding place.
The only time I need the phone number is to let her know I'm leaving, now in the area and to get the room number of the incall.
Do what is best for you. Email helps in screening prior to waste of time calls. Some never do phone calls and keep it text or email..... I have to talk to the person in order to confirm. Many weirdos pass screening and are crazy via phone.
It is completely upto you how you do it. Many great gals do email only. Obviously it works well for them.
I like to get the personality before confirming, that is what I am comfortable with. I don't like much email/texting prior. Call. Plus it makes it easier for same day appts. Some gals take a few days to screen, I can screen in less than an hour if I get enough info.
Never a right or wrong answer on this.
As I use that as another part of my screening process. Kind of like how the eyes are a window to the soul, well I'm not looking into anyone's soul on the phone but a brief conversation can tell so much. The sound of their voice, the words they choose, etc give me a better "picture" of who I'm going to be entertaining. Also my voice is another selling point and just adds to the anticipation.
Any stalker, thief, or sex-offender etc can behave himself for a few single one hour sessions. I feel scared for you newbie girls who are seeing guys without Googling their phone numbers and running them through blacklist sites. You are also doing yourself an extreme disservice by not spending 5 minutes on the phone with each already booked new client. As these two ladies have stated- tone, breathing patterns, word choice, etc give you INVALUABLE information about the person with whom you are about to be naked and vulnerable.
I've got people reading skills on par with the best FBI criminal profilers. Call me old school, but it has saved me from theft, assault, and possibly worse.
Phone call guys are usually last minute, late night, and drunk. They also want to chat you up for a fkin hour and have jack off material, rarely provide screening info. and even if they "tell" you who their refs are, you still have to write the stuff down to go look them up. Email simply makes the most sense. Time wasting idiots are deleted, and you tend to the serious guys.
With phone calls, you don't find out who is full of shit until after you listen to them yap for a while, and it's far from discreet. Most married men and providers I know, are rarely alone or in a position to make or take phone calls at random. Men rarely leave a voice mail, and a provider has no clue when or if she should even call that number back. Bottom line...phones are trouble, and always have been. I have to use a phone for my agency, and I spend more time answering it, than making freaking money!
While I do have a work phone/number for vendor calls and my fellow colleagues, I chose not to share it with clients. There are dozens of reasons, the least being getting dick pic texts :p
I'm going to continue to use email for first communication. Phones are way too much of a pain in the ass. I do see their usefulness as a screening tool, though, both as info to search and to 'read' the voice of the prospective client. The few times I have been contacted by a person that I didn't want to see, I found them on the blacklists by googling their phone number.
I put a phone number on all ads EXCEPT the ones I post in Milwaukee. It has to be email only first.. So much general stupidity here. If I put a number in my ad, I get calls like "I think I want to see you but are you Black or half Black? Ohh, I only like white women, can I have a discount?" Do I get angry at the idiots? Nope, because I'm almost finished school & I'll be the one injecting their stupid butts with antibiotics to cure that funky gonorrhea they got from the street corner. ![]()