I'm going to come right out and type it:  I have never had sex (can't bring myself to use the 'V' word).  Should I go down this route?  I am having ZERO luck the traditional way.  I guess the question is do I want to go on never having sex or have my first time under these circumstances?  

It might sound silly but part of my thinks this could jump-start me into getting my life into gear.  If I know what I've been missing I'll try harder in my personal life.

Any thoughts?  Thanks for letting me get this off my chest.

I was 22 years old and just out of college and decided enough was enough.

Shortly after I began a series of civie relationships and continued to hobby as well.

Are you 20, 40 60?  That may illicit a different response from some.

But that notwithstanding, this is a great place to "lose that V".  The gals here are only interested in "getting you off"..nothing more (like expecting you to call her in the morning).

But in your civvy life, things can and do get more complicated.  And perhaps that is why you are "not lucky".  Creating a "real" relationship takes commitments, time and consideration.  I'm assuming that you don't want these at this point, and perhaps never.  That is your call.

And if you really want to create the fantasy each time you see a provider, tell them you are a virgin.  And then you can relive that experience "over and over"...if that is your thing!

I'm not quite as old as the guy from '40 Year Old Virgin' but alot closer than I like.  This is not something I want to live over and over again, I just want to be done with it!

First answers do depend on your age group. If your 25 or under I would expect most response to be about 50/50. As you get older from that group I would see more recommending this as the way to go. It also depends on how you go about it. There is pure simple sex which you can get relatively inexpensively and easily which will get you started technically but may disappoint you and do nothing to change your civies lifestyle. I know this from personnel experience as a young military guy who lost it to a prostitute in London at 18 but whose real life romances did not really get started till much later.
As often recommended on here the better way, if your determined, is to seek out an older, more mature lady with plenty of great reviews who is willing to work with someone younger (many do not go below certain ages). If you let her know your situation and that you want to learn with long enough sessions you can not only lose your virginity but start to gain confidence with ladies that can transfer over to civies. What I am describing is probably not going to happen in one short session (except for your virginity) and may take several sessions. Do not rush into it, get VIP read the juicy details get a sense for the types of ladies in your area. If one of the ladies you take a liking to also posts on regional or the other boards, it will be even better as you can search her old posts and get a better sense of what she is like so you can pick a winner the first time.
The main thing is you can lose your virginity easily on this route. Losing it in a way that will leave you feeling good and more confident will take a lot of effort. Only you can decide what your looking for.

Life is too short man. This is probably a fantastic way to lose your virginity. If I were you I'd get the VIP here so you can see exactly what girls in your area offer and start reaching out. I'm sure a well reviewed girl will take good care of you. But don't give up on getting laid in regular life. Have you ever considered a dating coach? I know a lot of people look down on that too but a good dating coaCh can help you get your confidence up and meet more girls, getting laid is pretty easy once you are dating consistently. In the meantime though, treat yourself and relieve a little stress with a well reviewed girl!

Great advice!  First off, I live in a small town so I won't be seeing anyone local.  I'm going to Vegas Sept. 10-13.  I've narrowed it down to a few candidates but I'm still looking for the perfect provider.  

When I go out, I don't even really try to pick up girls anymore.  Part of my thinks 'why bother with all the effort, I'll just go home and take care of myself'.  But I'm guessing once I know what I'm missing I will try harder and take it more seriously.  What drives me crazy is that I'm a good looking guy with a decent amount of money.  I should be getting laid all the time but something went wrong somewhere down the line.  I'm hoping this will get me back on track.

I didn't want this to turn into a therapy session.  I think I'm trying to talk myself into it.

Ok after viewing some of your other posts on this board and knowing your age range, this is a good idea for you. Part of my reply still applies and from your post on MSOG I can see it is important to you. There are reviewed ladies who are once and done, but the true well reviewed ladies will usually allow MSOG if the time exists, and if not enough time exists will give you your full time anyway.
On getting cash in Vegas most of the Casinos are geared to helping you get cash, so if your staying in one getting cash right before you need it is not a problem. If your seeing a lady with lots of good reviews that you have read then worrying about her ripping your cash off is not anything to worry about. Setting an extra long appointment with someone who you might not click with can be. Your best bet is to see a provider and letting her know while setting the time that you might wish to extend if that was possible or going for the middle ground  in a 90 min session.
As for my advice on mature providers, it still stands. Your new to everything, your going to be nervous and will need a lady that will take time to lead you through the whole experience. Also have a plan B, you are doing your research which is good but if I were you I would set up sessions on two days with different ladies. That way you get twice the experience which is always good and if anything does go wrong on your first session you are set for the next day. If anything causes the first lady to have to cancel (it does happen occasionally) you don't want to be in Vegas thinking with your little head trying to get a last second replacement. Plus if you do have a great first time your going to want it again and so having one already planned helps.

but if you need well reviewed, I'm not there on this board yet as I just re-entered the business. But I have virgin experience. Maybe after you're devirginized...... (is that even a word?!?!?!)

Good luck and stay safe!  

Summer Sanders
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can be a tough town for the unwary.  You have made the right first step by coming here.  
First read the self help section (by the life saver).  Then read back on these pages.  There are many tips.  ALL this is FREE!

Then get VIP and find a WELL REVIEWED provider...  that is at least 10-12 good reviews and at least some by experienced reviewers, with 10 or more provioder reviews.    As has been suggested, I also recommend a late 20's to 30ish provider...  a MILF...    Young enough & hot but also experienced enough to be patient.  Nothing wrong with provider sex but at some point you will want the ability at least to transfer this over to your civie life.  There is a great confidence from not only knowing that you can get off...  that part is easy...  but learn to enjoy a woman fully, and to please her as much as you please yourself.

I popped my cherry young...  my partners never comlained.  Even an ex who had the opportunity to did not.  But as an older man, I have learned to savor pleasing my companion as much as myself.

So to get the most benifit, you want to request "equal time" be devoted to teaching you the arts of being a lover.  Now, granted every woman has her own personal preferances and are even constructed slightly differently...  some is obivious with clothes on, other places not so much.  Yet there is a certain commonality to the various lovely female bodies.  

I would think that you would want 1 or 2 hours at a time.  Perhaps longer in the initial meetings.  

Be very careful.  It is totally normal to fall for your provider...  it is the sex hormones, so necessary for cave men, to protect their offspring.  The best providers give an ILLUSION of what life *might be* with them...  The is even a term for it... GFE...  the Girl Friend Experience.  Life with any woman is not really like that but we dream it would be.  You may LOVE what she does, but you DO NOT LOVE her.  You have been warned!!   THe L (Love) word is like poison to a provider...  too often an obsessed client will become a stalker.  Some may kindly say "No, you do not"...  Some might try to exploit you (ask you for loans or drain your bank account.  Others will refuse to see you again.   There are boundaries in this game and this is one of them.  

Once you do this there will be no going back.  I recall after the end of my first romance (and sex partner)...  I began dating again.  One nice young lady, we had a bite to eat & went to a movie...  we stopped on the way home for a private moment and somehow she knew that I was more experienced than she was or she was ready to be.  

As I said there is a certain confidence in knowing you can be a good lover...   so that when you have your chance, you'll not blow it through nerviousness.  (Though in a love afair, it is wise to go very slow and let the emotional precede the physical)

One last thing...  this is a secret life.  Until it becomes legal...  not legal n Vegas either, though in some outlieing counties...  you never mention this secret world.  Not to your brother, your best friend, your buddy at work...  not even the girl you are about to marry!  (someday)   You do not want some drunk ex-buddy to toast your wedding that Halo has given up whoring!  (I hate that word but you never know what a drunk will blurt out).  To your bride, you just state "you had girl friends before".  You never say how long they were your girl friends for.  
The only place you can talk about this "hobby" is here on these boards.  Everything else you take to your grave.    

I've thrown a boat load of information at you here...  take some time.  Do some reading.
Best Wishes,
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