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WeirdHobbyist 2215 reads
posted
1 / 12
Unusual screening problem?

I contacted a well reviewed provider a few days ago to set something up for this weekend in a large southern city.  I emailed her at the address suggested in her profile, she emailed me back and after a brief call we agreed on a time.  

The thing is she didn't ask me any of the apparently typical screening questions (P411, employer, etc.) most newbies find objectionable.  The more I think about this, the more uncomfortable I get with it.

On the other hand, most of her reviewers have multiple white lists themselves.  Her reviews go back a few months.

How worried should I be?  Don't get me wrong, I'm happy I didn't get the usual screening questions, but I find it reassuring when everyone involved is being careful.  The only thing I can think of is maybe I'm exceptionally charming via email?

Is this a red flag she's LE/not "discrete"?  Am I overreacting?  After all, a wise enemy is better than a foolish friend

GaGambler 682 reads
posted
2 / 12
Many men and women alike here will consider that a red flag

Personally, as long as she is well reviewed, this doesn't bother me in the least. You would be amazed what kind of screening a lady can do with what seems like very little actual information to go by, even so much as a name and number is enough for someone with resources and the knowledge of how to use it.

IOW, I wouldn't let this bother me. especially since you say she is a well reviewed provider.

DJ1985 21 Reviews 389 reads
posted
3 / 12
Don't make something out of nothing

If her reviews and reviewers look good she is not likely LE or anything else bad. If it makes you to nervous cancel because you probably wont enjoy it any way but I don't think you have anything to worry about with her.

-- Modified on 5/29/2014 3:44:06 PM

swimtrekr 59 Reviews 465 reads
posted
4 / 12
Agree with previous posters.

The ladies have a myriad  of ways to screen us, so just because she didn't ask you a bunch of questions is not a major cause for worry.

Swim

Duplicitouslust 24 Reviews 421 reads
posted
5 / 12
Julia, just wondering do you screen some of us just for the heck of it? EOM


END OF MESSAGE

GaGambler 421 reads
posted
6 / 12
I think that is basically what I just said

which means we are in perfect agreement.

A lot of the posters here however will give the very bad advice that if she doesn't not "overtly" screen her clients, that she is somehow cavalier about her safety and by extension the safety of her clients. I am glad we agree that this is not always the case.:)

Jstgttnstrtd 18 Reviews 396 reads
posted
7 / 12
well, you never mentioned what info you DID provide

If you didn't provide your full name, or P411 ID (if you have one) - did you provide references?  Are you TER whitelisted?
If she didn't ask for ANY of these, that would be unusual.  Then again, along the lines of what Julia said, if the appt is stll several days away, she may very well come back to you later asking for additional info.

perfectstorm 19 Reviews 341 reads
posted
8 / 12
Not a red flag

If yiu were dealing with a provider with no reviews, off an ad site such as backpage, then that would be red flag. With an established well reviewed lady, i wouldn't worry about it.  

Asthe others have said, sometimes you can be screened without even knowing it. Also some ladies don't screen, or do minimal or random screening. Also it's the end of the month. Rent is due. Who knows the reason? Maybe she secretly screened you. Maybe she did zero screening. In any case I wouldn't worry about it. With an established well reviewed lady, the risk is all on her end. Go for it. Have fun.

keystonekid 114 Reviews 395 reads
posted
9 / 12
Most providers have many ways to screen without asking you specifically about . . .

your info.  If a lady is well-reviewed here, you should be fine.

TLH_42 264 Reviews 425 reads
posted
10 / 12
Unusual Screening Problems

When I research a provider and see she has TER reviews............especially by more than one person............I feel pretty safe.  If you read reviews on multiple providers normally, you will see many of them are reviewed by some of the same hobbyists.  This should also make you feel more comfortable.

DocJuan24 1 Reviews 448 reads
posted
11 / 12
hmm...

Posted By: WeirdHobbyist
I contacted a well reviewed provider a few days ago to set something up for this weekend in a large southern city.  I emailed her at the address suggested in her profile, she emailed me back and after a brief call we agreed on a time.    
   
 The thing is she didn't ask me any of the apparently typical screening questions (P411, employer, etc.) most newbies find objectionable.  The more I think about this, the more uncomfortable I get with it.  
   
 On the other hand, most of her reviewers have multiple white lists themselves.  Her reviews go back a few months.  
   
 How worried should I be?  Don't get me wrong, I'm happy I didn't get the usual screening questions, but I find it reassuring when everyone involved is being careful.  The only thing I can think of is maybe I'm exceptionally charming via email?  
   
 Is this a red flag she's LE/not "discrete"?  Am I overreacting?  After all, a wise enemy is better than a foolish friend.  
   
 
Am I wrong in thinking don't worry? If I'm not mistaken LE will make you talk about specifics when face to face no? If you have the apt wait for the provider to make the first move is the best way possible no? Just curious myself!

WeirdHobbyist 306 reads
posted
12 / 12
Had the date

All went well.  She wasn't the most organized lady I've ever met, but definitely not LE.

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