I see your dillema, but we really don't want to post too much information of this sort here.  

I would suggest asking the lady or ladies of your choice if they have alternate means of verification and keep discussions of this sort as private as possible.  

You may also want to join one of the verification sites depending on what area you live in.  

Thanks

hey there - new to the game, big fan for a long time but just now ready to jump in. A lot of providers seem to ask for references...if you are new, and have no references,  what's a guy to do?

thanks!

...find some gals through them that are newbie friendly, see them, be a nice, respectful, horny guy, then ask them agree to OK you and you're golden.

This is the best way to start, it gives both parties a better sense of each other. Not only are you screened but  providers are screened also. And remember references work both ways, alot of providers who work in an area generally know each other. Good OR bad news about you can spread quickly, but it is very nice when you call up a provider you've never seen before and are accepted instantly because she has already heard about you from someone you already see!!