If she wasn't afraid of losing your money she would have just given you the reference with no hassle.

Time to move on Truck.  This gal will be nothing but trouble from here on out...

Seen a upscale provider 2 Different times so far we always have great long talks etc etc , she is Very beautiful I must say an just wanted to test the Waters with  another provider so I asked her for a providers Reference Days later after I seen her the 2nd time And she responded with a text message saying Why what's wrong & a message about seeing me again an made a statement saying why would you want to see anyone else...  Is she Afraid of losing a client?  I told her I still would like to see her and I was just wanting to test the waters out!

It can be hard to tell the tone in which a text message was sent, so it's impossible to know if she was being sarcastic or not. However, some providers are possessive of clients, if that's the case you'll have to decide about your future with her.

I like to ask a provider if I can use her as a reference in person, so I ask at the end of the date. Her reply will normally dictate whether in fact I will ask her in the future for a reference.  

It sounds like this 'beautiful upscale provider' wants to narrow her client list to a stable of regulars, including you.  That's probably why you're getting extra time.  Congratulations, you've met Miss ATF.  A 'very beautiful' provider is quite rare in my neck of the woods.  But maybe you have all kinds of beautiful providers on speed dial.  If so, ignore the next paragraph.  

Regarding your request for a provider's reference, here's the signal she's sending back:  If you don't plan to see her on a regular basis, she'll probably drop you.  That's the flip side of the equation.  Tread carefully here, particularly if you want to see her often.     --z  

She made need some reassurance, which you gave her by saying you would still like to see her.

Some providers are insecure, get jealous easily, and can become attached.
I'm sure we've all had an ex-gf like this. And I'm sure it did not end well.

let me understand this query..she can have clients and fuck anyone she wants but wants you only to fuck her and no one else..these ladies know it is a business..i have never had one of my providers dare to tell me such a thing..if she did i would move on..she has absolutely no right to tell you who to see and who not to see..likewise you have no right telling her what clients to see and who not to see..

Mac, I agree with your statement below on principle.  But the OP described this provider as  'very beautiful',  so I'll take him at his word. My experience is that a girl of this caliber will not be on the market for long--she'll find a stable of regular clients and go UTR.  That's what my ATF did--she dropped off P411 two years ago & hasn't been back since.   Two other beautiful local providers did the same thing.   I was able to stay on my ATF's client list as well as one of the other two.  But that third provider--she's gone.  I only saw her once (OMG, a gorgeous honey blonde) before she went UTR. I never saw her again. --z

Because now we can see who you velcro provider is...

Time to move on...We can say she was being sarcastic...we can say she was being dead serious...but in this hobby, there is absolutely no reason to try and figure out which it is. The second something seems out of line, walk away.

If the lady he's referring to is his most recent review, I do agree that she's "very attractive."

I missed a chance to see her when I was down there, she has a pretty strict schedule...instead I went and saw my last review...Its proof that you should think with you big head and not with your small one...lol

Many of them will offer the guy requesting a ref a discount just to keep him from spending money on another woman...sad and pathetic actually. Unless you buy her a ring, she should either not give refs at all or stfu. It's not YOU she is afraid of losing honey...it's your money.

Also, if she is wanting to limit the number of guys she sees, upping her damn rate might be a better option than playing the possessive card. At less than 300 an hour and with greek included, she is not exactly high end.

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Some girls aren't necessarily satisfied with seeing a "stable" if that stable doesn't pay big bucks - which good looks can garner. I've seen a girl who was truly gorgeous go from $350 (with an agency) to $600/hr.