How many people here can say that they have either dated a provider or married one?

about dating as in a civilian relationship or dating P4P?

This is probably not the best board to ask the question.  You might get a bigger response if you ask on the GD board, but you would probably get a lot of flack for asking.

If you are asking for the reason I think you are asking, the real question should be how successful the relationships were.

Do a search on the GD board.  There have been several discussions about relationships with providers.

have a thick skin?
If so, post on GD board, if nothing else, it will be enertaining.

Search  for posts by Scoed on the GD board,  he's married to a provider. Many hobbyists have close relationships with providers. There's otc time involved and there is non hobby communications. That's about as close as I like to get to escorts.

that for each one that succeeds, there are many many more that fail...and fail horribly.

The gals who are looking for Johns are doing so because they make a living this way.  And to muddy the relationship of John/Companion with a civvy type dating scene will put the gal at a very high risk of getting screwed...and NOT in a good way.  And from Johnny's perspective, too often they are simply thinking that seeing the provider exclusively will yield "free" sex, and when the whole package is unveiled it is never like Johnny thought it would be.  And in other cases Johnny simply can't deal with the provider's history, and her impending return to the work force.

And as far as this being common...I doubt it very highly.  Perhaps in the circles you are traveling you are seeing that this happens with some frequency.  But I've been around this for a long long time (well before TER) and I have rarely seen this happen...let alone successfully.  To be honest (if you care to believe in honesty here) most providers tend to NOT want any relationships while they are in the business.  And those that do have SO's...it is a slippery slope with alot of angst.  It is rare to have a scoed (another TER poster who is married to a provider) type open relationship that seems to work.

And the OP should indeed post his question as such, just realizing that these are all responses by nameless (aside from our TER handles), faceless folks.  But in many instances the truth is generally rendered, especially on this type of a thread.

No, that doesn't follow. While a small percentage they may be a representatie sample.

Provider and I am dating a guy that was a client of mine. He had hobbies awhile before me. We meet in the business and had a few session and something just clicked. When things clicked it stopped totally business wise. We have been together for a year now. Things have been really great. He knows what I do, and is tolerant of it. It would be a lie to say that he is ok about me being a provider. But, I have goals set that I want to meet before I get out of the business. He has never asked me to quit my job, he understands my goals and also me wanting to be independent. I have my own place that I pay for, not him, and he had his place. Even though we have our own places we are still together most of the time. We get along great, but my job has caused a few arguments. It is a difficult relationship to have. We both knew that going in. We sat down and talked about how we would handle things that might come up with my job. We determined what would work for us and it has. The few arguments we have had about, we sat down and talked them through and got over the hump.

If you ask this because you are wanting to date someone that is a provider the only advice that I can give is be realistic about it. Dont think she will quit her job for you, you wouldn't want her to because it may cause some resentment down the road. Talk to her find out her goals (I.e. Is this a temporary road to something else). If you can deal with her being a provider talk beforehand about ways to handle difficult things that will come up, and I assure you they will. If you are a jealous type I do not think it would be a relationship for you!

Either the girl turns out to be blood sucking gold digging bitch or the guy turns out to be cheating asshole interested in nothing but free pussy.

There are some variations on these two scenarios, but usually it never ends well.  One person always ends up having their life fucked up.

The rest of us are still just paying and playing.

A caveat:  for either party to suggest things be "OTC" or moved to a social rather than professional status when it isn't mutual can risk the other person who does NOT feel this way to feel very uncomfortable and discontinue the professional relationship.

It's like hitting on a coworker who just "likes you as a (work) friend." Knowing you want more when they don't may cause the coworker to avoid you.

Tread very lightly and just be glad the hot girl you are infatuated with will let you spend time with her for a few hundred dollars.

A provider friend of mine had a client who divorced his wife in order to be with her. She relocated to another state and moved in with him. Soon, he got tired of her and resumed hobbying and playing the field. She moved out and hasn't found a civy job in her new city yet, causing her to provide more often. Not her best decision.

Ladies who get involved with former clients need to be careful.

None would admit though.  Its adding public humiliation to insult and injury.

Girls say "I would never date a client", then meet one smooth operator, cut down on her work or quit altogether only to find themselves in less than desirable situation.

One girl I know got ditched by her fiance who gave her "my ex wife discovered I am dating a prostitute and now she is threatening to take away my kids" story.  The girl was going nuts thinking he died while he was "reconsidering things".