With respect to services, a lady shouldn't be offended, IMO, if services offered are declined. At least if declined nicely (as opposed to saying, "Are you fucking kidding me?!").

As for asking about testing... ladies will tell you they get tested regularly, but you might want to hold onto your jewels if you're going to ask. IMO.

That is one of those things where it might make sense to be a good question IN THEORY, but not in practice

Ladies, chime in and let me know if I am off-base.

I love to DATY but sometimes I just ain't into it...for round 2 I sometimes find it difficult to keep my hard-on with a condom so I ask for a CBJ at the start of the second round to make the transition a bit easier.  I've asked for both and every time I've gotten the "no problem" response with a smile.

I would only ask the STD testing question from behind closed doors...perhaps with a body guard and an attack dog standing by.  

Why does it matter?  Assume that every provider has an STD (they don't, in fact the frequency of STD's among civie girls is higher than providers) and act accordingly.

Asking about STI testing will not go over well.  In terms of your boundaries where oral sex is concerned I think you'll find providers to be understanding and accomodating.

However, if all you can think about is how many partners a provider has and how she's probably infected with something, the hobby may not be for you.

...ask about STIs. It's both somewhat offensive (of COURSE I get tested regularly and am not showing symptoms, what kinda girl do you think I am?? etc.) and strays into the tricky grey area of discussing sex.

I don't offer anything most hint at what they want while there or I know beforehand therefore I'm never insulted.


I've never been insulted when asked how often I get tested I gladly tell them because I got zero to hide.