Given that about 90% of providers seem to be or offer GFE, I'm not sure exactly what kind of provider you are considering.  PSE, BDSM, FBSM?

But sure, try them all.

Also change up on how often you see someone.

Eventually, if this hobby is for you (It is not for everyone.) you'll find your groove.

I mean exclusively.

I have not been doing this long and, at the moment, I'm having trouble getting used to it.(GFE that is)

I'm wondering if I should just see only non-GFE providers, see each provider only once, stop for awhile until mini-me can't wait any longer and needs a release.    

Thoughts?

" I'm not sure exactly what kind of provider you are considering."

Well, from time to time I read reviews of providers that were "mechanical" or "professional", "had a business-like approach".
I'm assuming this type of provider doesn't "act' like a girlfriend.This is the main problem I have. That is, I don't want to hear disingenuous ego-boosting rhetoric. I've had providers do it and it sounds like #4,#7, and #9 from the escorts handbook.Just having a normal conversation and then getting down to business would suffice.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I've heard that some men for various reasons choose not to partake of kissing, BBBJ or DATY, even with providers who offer all that. However, I doubt if they insist that the girl treat them with an impersonal, mechanical approach, if that's what you're asking about.

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find that by reading reviews not by reading the providers info on their website?

they don"t HAVE to be impersonal just don't be fake.

It would bother me if I had established a regular ongoing "relationship" with a provider who I thought enjoyed my company only to find out she had been less than honest during our encounters.

so seriously. Realize that there will always be some element of acting by both parties. The best you can usually hope for is that the fakery isn't too obvious.

And it's not just done to humor you. Providers also enjoy their jobs better when more than going through the motions is involved. Sometimes, they are no more sure than we are of what's real or not. So have fun and just don't expect to form relationships that extend beyond your paid sessions.

Always, always keep that in mind.  Otherwise, you'll be "falling for a provider and won't be able to get up"   and you'll need to see the LG on the Erotic Highway board.

Out of the four I've seen, only one really "got to me". She is someone I would be interested in if I met her in another context (I mean generically, just like when you meet someone in a business or social gathering and you hit it off.)

I can't fall in love with someone in 2-3 months so I'm not worried about that.Moot point since I'm not going to see her again.

Anyway, thanks for the advice.

I agree about that.Whatever it takes for a provider to feel comfortable with the session I'm willing to oblige.


I think I might be seeing providers that are too young.I'm going to change that and see how it goes.


Thanks.

and especially one that does role play.

Tell her that this is your interest, and see if she has reviews that confirm her abilites.

Oddly, I met many gals like this way back in the 1970s because the whole concept of GFE had not even been invented.

I figured just getting to have sex with a woman was fantastic.  When GFE finally came along about 20 years ago, it really spoiled me.

One really has to read the reviews & then give them a try.  I have my own sense of GFE...  mostly after if I want to go back!

sometimes the simplest advice is best.

"experimenting" until I "find my groove" sounds like a good plan.

It was really the second provider I saw (the first was a bad experience/rip off) that threw me for a loop.

Given time and more experience I think I'll be ok.

Thanks.

Is that because they  are afraid of catching AIDs or some STD?  I wonder how safe BBBJ or DATY is.  I hope it is because I love both.  What is the risk?  Does anyone know.

GFE should be more than scripted lines.... Everyone does it different but I view GFE as actions not false flattery. The key is you. We are not mind readers. I love to know ahead of time what you are looking for and what you like so that when we meet I am in the right mindset. Try just setting the scene in your scheduling process.

I don't do GFE because even though I have my wife's blessing to hobby, GFE with kissing and the like feel too much like cheating and I feel guilty about it. I don't if I don't kiss.

Now for STD risks. Let me state I engage in both BBBJ and DATY. But they are not safe just safer then BBFS. There is not such a thing as a safe sex act even covered, just a safe sex act. I find the chart below useful gauging risk.