Is it unusual for a newbie to be unable to ahhhh..."perform" the first time out? I booked an attractive 19 year old based on terrific reviews here on TER. She knew I was a newbie and nervous, but did nothing to really help me relax and get hard. Even though she is advertised as a "GFE" there was no DFK (or even LFK, for that matter), and no oral. I think that both DFK and a BJ would have helped my "situation" but none was offered (yes, I asked.) I knew about her "no BJ on first date" rule, but was really disappointed in that the reviews mentioned plenty of DFK. Was it unusual that I had this problem the first time out? I mean, she's the professional...I booked a nice 2 hour appointment...Isn't it part of her job to at least try to get me hard? Plus, even though it was a nice, upscale hotel there were plenty of distractions (her cell phone going off several times with her taking the calls, maids knoking on the door, etc.) Seemed like a nice girl, but I am disappointed in myself for not getting hard and disappointed in her for not at least trying to put me at ease and limit distractions. Is this unusual for first timers???

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No.  The same thing happened to me.  Fortunately, that was the only time and it got better from that point.  Hang in there.

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Unless it was right at the end of the agreed-upon time (there are good reasons for her to take a call then), it is extremely rude and unprofessional for her to take phone calls in the middle of your session.  I would not say anyone who acts that way "seemed like a nice girl."

As for your performance anxiety, don't be disappointed with yourself.  You were in a strange new situation. and it sounds like the conditions were unusually bad, too.

Next time, maybe be proactive about preventing distractions.  Put a Do Not Disturb sign on the hotel door, ask the girl to turn off electronic gizmos, etc.

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No, again.  Me too.  I'm 57 and have chosen to use Viagra.  Smallest dose (25 mg) is effective for me and minimzes side effects.  Confidence will come with experience.  Find a more experienced lady.  The girl you chose made a bad situation worse.  Book for only one hour 'til things start working.  If it doesn't happen in the first hour, it won't in the second.  Save your money 'til you're sure you can use the time, and you've found a lady who meets your desires.  RELAX!!! Enjoy.

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this is a very unfortunate newbie encounter (but i've heard far worse).  the important thing to realize is that you did NOTHING wrong. she was completely sub-par and i'm surprised to hear she had "terrific reviews"


chalk it up to "bad luck" and move on (fast) but always do your homework

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i almost forgot, write a review and add it to the database (for the next guy)



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Tech Guy -

No, your experience is not at all unusual.  You have nothing at all to be ashamed of, and your response is quite normal.  Erections and sex are conditioned, dependent upon personal and situational factors.  A cell phone ringing, not shut off and actually answered is a real turn off, as can be someone knocking on your door.  

A good provider would have given you a good experience in a half hour, or an hour.  You don't need to pay in advance for two hours...and can usually pay for more time if you want it.

Thanks for *sharing* your experience.  I wish more people would do that.  You have been helpful to many others, with similar experiences, I'm sure.

Greg

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Good morning - I am sorry you had such an unpleasant experience in what should have been a lovely time...with plenty of DFK, touching, stroking, getting to feel relaxed, comfortable, sexy, and satisfied. I think you should try another provider - like me! I will definitely give you a wonderful experience, a passionate, fun, and exciting experience with a 40 year old woman who is new to this profession but not new to the art of giving pleasure.
Call me at 408-449-7662?
xoxox
Sweet Sharyn

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duder-

Might want to tink about a massage provider for your first cuople of times...

I can't really say as that is almost all I have seen, but they are very adept at creating mood...

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Thanks for all of your advice! It really helps! This board is terrific, especially for a newbie.

Well, as a follow-up, I climbed back in the saddle last night with much better results. I really lucked out in being able to book an indie with absolutely incredible reviews here (I'm talking many "10"'s and "ATF" references from guys who have been in this hobby for many years.) The setting was more relaxed (my 5 star hotel) and the the girl (or should I say woman) was in her 30's and much more experienced.

Once agin I was open and honest about my newbie status and she put me at ease right away and made it her job to "take care of me." Bottom line: I was able to get hard but was not able to come even though she did her best (CG, Doggie, and long unbelievable BBBJ's in every position including 69.) She was     actually begging for me to cum in her mouth, and I came close many times but just could not shoot. (It certainly was not her fault!!) Looking back I can't belive I did not cum in that soft warm fantastic sweet mouth, but I guess thisis where the nerves kick in! I booked for 2 hours and she stayed for about a half an hour overtime with no hesitation and no request for additional $$ (we both lost track of the time.)

So, this was a major improvement! Plus, I can see how this hobby can get addicting!

Thanks again everyone for giving me the re-assurance that I needed!

who is this lovely lady?

Have not jumped in the saddle yet. Can anyone give me good advice for my first time? What is the precise protocol with respect to donations? Should you wait until things have heated up so you know she's not LE? What are the main things that you should NOT do? Like a lot of people TER has given me a whole new perspective on what I thought was a dark sleazy underworld. After reading all the reviews from you guys, I realize it doesn't seem to be that at all. Thoughts?

-Not even a newbie, yet.

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I agree with your suggestion of doing your home work and moving on (fast). I happen to be disabled and my first experience with a provider was Ok, but the next 3 providers were fantastic!!!!The last provider, was the epitome of a GFE!!!!!!

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Guys,
I think you should probally first consider an experience woman first.. e-mail with her and call talk on the phone..this will put you at ease first..Makes actual meeting easier for you.
 I meet alot of first timers and do not have problem of umm
 "things standing to attention"...as a matter of fact each has returned.
I believe you guys aren't sure what to expect and we ladies need to take the lead and make it an ultimate experience for you!!
I am always available.
Belle

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Belle,

You are so right! Your quote:

"we ladies need to take the lead and make it an ultimate experience for you!!"

is right on target and was what I expected.

As a footnote: I have noticed that the last couple of reviews on my first lady have been more along the lines of what I experienced. So at least I know I did nothing "wrong." I just made up my mind to chalk it up to experience. I have absolutely no regrets. Every journey starts with the first.

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I hope this is appropiate.. I find a link that sounds very good for first timers..
http://sex.perkel.com/escort/index.htm
It is very informative?
Could this be of use to you guys?
Moderators is this ok to post?
Belle

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I too am new to the "hobby" and had performance problems with a "True GFE" at the beginning.  Went for 3 hours time with a dinner.  Thought I was going on a date!!!  Got one pop on BBBJ and then went DATY.  Had trouble completing CG and then GFE decided that she didn't feel good and it was time to go, 15 minutes early!!  Was not offered more time for more money or anything.  I chalked it up to anxity, being new, chemistry, YMMV, whatever. Now I 1 hour policy and I have had another great time with 2 pops in an hour so I guess it is like anything else, getting use to it and finding what works for you.  Still new, under 5 visits, but I aim to change that soon!