Many genuinely enjoy it. I've found however that GFE providers who are truly comfortable "talk'n the talk" are rare.

What are the dirty talk rules when it comes to words?  I figure if the lady introduces the word it's free game.  Is this the general rule?  I had one lady tell me she was going to my dirty little slut.  I have to admit it turned me on but I couldn't use the term myself.  It just felt wrong.  I just struggle with what's degrading and what's just hot dirty talk.

Some will let you say anything you want, others, well not quite. If the lady introduces the word, like slut or bitch, than I'd say it's fair game. If you think it's degrading than don't use it. Any word that she uses first is pretty much fair game in my book.

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Wait and  get very comfortable with a gal, then ask her if there is anything off limits, and be sure she knows that it is not really you so much as part of the scene.  Also that you are OK with her wanting to call it off anytime it gets too much for her.

It's amazing, but I've found women who are OK with serious physical abuse, (Which I would never want to ever inflict.), but fall apart at the W word. (Not that I'mm much into that either.)

Words can sting worse than a whip, literally.

"Am I your dirty little cum slut?"

"Don't you like fucking a filty whore?"

Are these trick questions?

I usually riposte:  "Oh yeah baby."  I figute I can't go to far wrong with that.

I've run into this a few times in my hobby career.

It's always a struggle to know if they say this because they think I enjoy it or because they really want to her this echoed back from me.

I wonder if it is a bit of both.

And then there are the ones who beg me to bite them till they bleed, a slap their face till it's red.  That is too insane for me.

Oddly though, I like them to slap and bite me, at least a bit now, and it's increasing, so is this hippocracy?

Telling a girl that she is a dirty cunt isn't hot, it's degrading. I dirty talk quite a bit but leave it to stuff like "your pussy feels so good", "fuck me harder" etc etc... It's safe to say that girls are offended by that.

So I've had to address it in the FAQ of my website.

As long as everyone is comfortable and it doesn't feel forced it is all good. Any words, any play, any fantasy - all good between two consenting adults.

However, if your first email to me is with vulagarity it goes right to the trash!

Have fun and play safe!

summer

Um, could you PM me the contact info for some of those girls. Lol

and it has served me well. TY The bottom line is the last thing you want to do is buzzkill the session with something offensive.

... now what I mean is there's a difference is come suck this dick n-word and  racial talk which is fine with me usually like I want your pretty chocolate lips around this white d*ck.  

Also depends on how thin or thick-skinned a lady is .... i don't cringe at the word slut or whore....depends on how it's used it could turn me on. TBH just ask the particular lady what are "no words" for her.

Yes the idea with this whole hobby thing is to relax, have fun and try to avoid the "buzz kills".....