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Did you send them a PM?....
mrfisher 112 Reviews 634 reads
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That's crucial so that they know it is you and not some jamoke that is stealing your white list identity.

CommunityQuestion2397 reads

Hey,

I just scheduled my first doubles. It's for a couple of weeks from now. After 10 pm's back/forth, I asked what screening info they need. I'm whitelisted here and offered a recent provider reference, after a couple of hours, they responded with, "you're all set"

I'm a little nervous of the lack of screening, but both women have lots of reviews and look legitimate.

Thoughts?

I think the purpose of everything is that once you get a whitelist things need to get easier?

If it were me I would have Googled any shred of info that you had happened to mention, then compared your email address to that listed on your profile, then checked with the ladies who white listed you...

It's quite possible they received their assurance without you having to actively participate in their screening.

It's also possible that they are taking your word for it and being lax in their screening.

Since both have lots of reviews I wouldn't worry much about it.  At least from a legal standpoint they are taking a much bigger risk in working together than you are in visiting.

screening can occur in all sorts of ways without you even knowing it. If they both have lots of reviews, and many of the reviewers have written lots of other reviews, you should have very little to worry about.

Sometimes I can screen within minutes just by e mail addy .. and then there are times when even having ALL info is not enough.

Lina

CommunityQuestion1463 reads

I don't remember if I gave them anything more than my first name and my TER handle. I've got 1 whitelist from a well reviewed local, but I don't know what else they found or maybe it was provider-only board? I have no idea. That's why I'm a little nervous.

I don't want to ask them how they screened me since that may put a damper on our chemistry especially with our meeting still being 2+ weeks away.

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That's crucial so that they know it is you and not some jamoke that is stealing your white list identity.

CommunityQuestion1000 reads

Yes, so far all communication between me and the ladies has been through PMs here. The ladies are traveling together and switch off between which one replies or which account they are signed in as.

They may well have checked with the provider(s) you reviewed here.  A lot of women prefer to screen by asking one or more ladies you DIDN'T put up as references but they know you saw.

like ddd said, ad email is enough. Me, I screen with just a phone number and I'm good to go..

If she is reviewed and you are whitelisted..


relax and have fun....

I love that you are concerned about not being screened thoroughly enough! Most gents are hesitant with the screening process. Kudos to you for wanting to stay safe:)

But I agree with other posts- there are many ways to screen and some of them can be done in a very painless way. If they are well reviewed and you've been talking with them thru PM here- you should be just fine.

Have fun!

CommunityQuestion617 reads

Thanks everyone for your replies, I feel less anxious now.

Shouldn't one feel nervous if they aren't being screened properly, I mean, I can't imagine LE trying to screen too hard.

I am scheduling my first appointment with a super hot girl I saw on Eros.  She had no email listed and I called and set the appointment.  She never asked for any information.  She is so hot I want it to be for real.  Her lack of concern/screening is bothering me (especially the more I read about it on TER).  Could someone help??

CommunityQuestion1225 reads

Did you at least look her up on TER?
I wouldn't even consider meeting a woman unless I had some proof that she was a provider that people have actually seen.
Check out your regional board and ask around?

If no, I'd say too risky. Newbies really shouldn't TOFTT.

She is not reviewed - I did a phone number and a name search.  I can't find her anywhere.  Thank you for the replies.  I felt in my stomach like it was not a good thing, but she was so hot and listed on E____.com and I wanted her to be legit/real.

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