Never having this before, my provider treated me to 69.  She acted like she liked.  Howver not knowing the right way.  Is there a "DATY ofr Dummies?"  sort of a how to guide on what to do???

Go slow, ask her to guide you, and ENJOY!!!

Nina Hartley has a couple of instructional videos that are very good.

now this is wht im talking about.  ask and you will receive  

I guess next some provider will want to know how to give a BJ

A good book on how-to is "She Comes First" by Ian Kerner, Regan Books (2004)