As I read reviews as a newbie, one thing strikes me as odd. Many or most hobbyists who post the reviews seem to dislike a provider counting money before the session starts. I can see the reason for irritation if the provider is a rip-off artist, a bait and switch visit or lied about their looks in their web photos or during conversations leading up to the appointment. But if a provider is the real deal, why shouldn't that person count money to insure that they are compensated properly, and what better time to do that than before the session starts? After all, a good provider is delivering a valuable service using a precious entity. Maybe there is something that I do not understand?
Counting the money in front of you is not necessarily
an insult,but portrays the attitude of "this is a business
deal." When she walks in and doesn't even look at the money
because the only thing on her mind is pleasing you,then
you've got a good chance of having that GFE experience.
I think in large part it interferes with the fantasy that it is more than money. It immediately conveys that the $$$ is the most important issue and not the client. The reality is that it is about the money. I have only met a few who counted up front. Personally, as soon as her lips wrap around my c&^k the last thing on my mind is the $$$. For all I know she may be thinking about what she is going to be making for dinner that night, but being the actress/professional she is she conveys that I am a hairless gutless reincarnate of the Hedgehog himself and she cant get enough of me. Dont sweat the small stuff and enjoy it for what it is; SEX with a babe who you wouldnt stand a chance of banging without $$$.(unless of course you really are the Hedgehog)
I've never had a lady count the money at the start of the session. I've only had a few even count it at the end of the session. Most just take it and put it in their purse.
I agree it detracts from the GF Experience. If she must count, I'd prefer she take it into the bathroom or somewhere and count it.
It seems to me most girls I have seen would rather settle after the session is over, in fact, most girls have told me they prefer not to discuss anything until the session is over. One girl told me she would rather be short changed than go through a nervous discussion beforehand.
A gentleman never HANDS the currency to the lady. Never! Place it in the bathroom or on a side table. My regular providers always get it in an envelope.
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I have been doing this for 5 years (only discovered TER last year) and I have a question about rates. I never discuss it and the providers don't want to discuss rates, so how do I know for sure that I am paying the correct rate and not short changing anyone?
I can't always rely on TER because about 25% of the time the rate information is outdated on the profile (from my experience). How Do I discuss rates if no one is supposed to discuss rates? I am no newbie, but I have always been concerned over this.
When I'am reading through reviews,I always click
on the providers web link at the top of profile
page.Her personal website "SHOULD" have the most
accurate and up to date info on rates.Sometimes,
they don't post their rates,because they want
you to call.
Personally I do not post rates on my website because it's not discreet. Since there is a place on reviews for the erotic writer to put in exactly what he'd pay you if his work of fiction came true, then there really is nothing to discuss further about it. I'd rather not talk money at all. Of course this is just my way of doing things.
I can see that being an indy gives you the
flexibility of being as discreet as you see fit.
Providers who primarily work incalls at spa's,
work outcalls also.Their websites,(the spa's)
contain all the info needed by a potential client.
Who's available,when available,rates,and even
directions.When he arrives there is no need for
conversation about money,because he already knows
how fat his envelope needs to be.
Here's a what if....A newbie client comes across
your website.He knows nothing of TER,your rates
are not posted.So he feels he has no choice except
to ask you about the size of the donation he needs
to bring.Do you hang up on him? Or,do you give the
information he seeks?
We all have to be discreet,but is there a way to be
discreet and user friendly? Just curious :^)
is leave the money spread out on the tile, near the bathroom sink. I had it done 2 times, and my respect level for the gentleman, went wayyyyy up 
I generally don't get my gifts, until after our session is over. But the way the gentlemen took their time out to do that for me, made me feel very comfortable with them
I'm a provider and unfortunately agencies require that you count it because if it is not correct it comes out of your paycheck! I think an independent would be less obvious about counting..maybe in the bathroom?