In my area, using TER websites and emails, I am having trouble making contact due to providers wanting a referral. Since I am new to all of this, I do not have the references from other providers. How do I break through this catch 22

Like: http://www.date-check.com
Or: http://www.preferred411.com

Both are very trustworthy and discreet, and most ladies do accept one of them or both!

Beijos and have fun!
Lauren