Ok, so, title says it all. I've seen 1 provider and it didn't go so well last year. I was so nervous I couldn't get things going. I know I can, I just didn't that day. She was SUPER HOT (Ember Simmers)and very sweet, but I couldn't do it. Was it because it was my 1st time? Crap I don't know! I do know the exact same thing happened to me in high school when it was my real 1st time!(Eventually got thru that) So my question is, how do I calm down and get things going? I have an appointment this week with another AMAZINGLY beautiful girl! And at least right now, I am so so excited about meeting her! I really don't wanna waste my money tho.(It's a lot,and worth every dime) so any advice anyone can help me with? Anything to prepare? Plz, any feedback would be appreciated

Having a drink first, if you drink. Especially with the lady in question. Just some easy conversation and liquid courage might help. Go get a massage before hand to help you relax. I've had several guys who are the nervous types meet me at the bar/lobby coffee shop before, so that the initial meeting isn't in such a charged setting. It really seems to help.  

Who's good with newbies. Not always easy to find, but a well reviewed MILF may be the way to go. Everyone was a newbie , and experienced what your going through.  

Maybe the issue is that ember doesn't do the GFE thing. Now as a compliment to her, she is very upfront about this and if you know that going is, she is incredible in other ways. Her honesty with me at least about her menu was refreshing. Sometimes I want the GFE thing other times no. Ember was perfect for what I was looking for.

Wow! What great advice from everyone!! So so much appreciated! I almost put in my post that the lack of GFE was prolly a huge part of it. I know I love and need to kiss my woman. It's just something I love. And yes Ember was so cool! She handled things like a champ. And very sweet! I sure wanted to do do lots of things to her I couldn't that's for sure!
And to the first lady who asked about me drinking, I don't drink so that's out the window. I live everyone's ideas and I appreciate it all.  
I'm hoping this next time, since I've already been they this once, that'll help as well. This next girl I'm seeing, even if I can't do my thing, I can assure y'all, I will sit there and enjoy every inch of her body! Even if it's just admiring it! I'm certain to enjoy it! She is SUPER SEXXXY and beautiful!! Not sure if I can or want to mention her name b4 I see her But will if it's ok. Guess I'll learn that stuff eventually  
Anyway, thanks everyone for all the advice! I'll take some of this knowledge and use it!

That can freak her out. Discretion is huge here and peeps need to know you can be trusted.

I don't drink much myself.  I presume you're not a weed type of guy either.

I like it! Gotta do something! Because this is happening one way or another!! Thank u!

Maybe consider seeing someone that isn't quite so hot.  

I think a more experienced, average or slightly above average, looking Indy, or the cute but not super hot GND type, might be his best road to take until he settles in a little bit.

There is certainly nothing wrong with not drinking! I'm sure I'm not alone in saying that I prefer a client who is stone cold sober vs the sloppy drunk sort. If alcohol isn't you thing, you could still go for a nice cup of chamomile or mint tea with the lady before hand to break the ice. Most nice hotel lobbies have a coffee shop of some sort, and that can be much less intimidating than upstairs.  

better at getting you to relax just enough to have a wonderful time.

Playing in the sugarbowl for a few years, I've forgotten about some of the amazing bullshit you guys put up with.  You throw a fat wad of cash to a girl who maybe spends one hour with you...and she doesn't kiss you.  Because you're not good enough.  Because she's saving that for her boyfriend.  Let her loser boyfriend take care of her.  

Thanks to everyone! All great advice. And believe me when I say, I will not ever book a non GFE again! I loved the one guys advice, although rather harsh, to not book any non GFE ladies. Yes we're dropping lots of money and they should at least kiss u. But to each is her own I reckon. I will take a lot of y'all's tips and work them in my next booking. And I'll certainly keep y'all updated. Thanks again guys and gals

Thanks for informing us all here, on a board devoted to people new to p4p, that they "should stop thinking about it."

Here's a wild idea...

Being polite and direct and decisive is appreciated.

And instead of telling the john that she lies, and softens the blow by saying all manner of crap.  

Some guys get so excited all they have to do is get in the same room with a hottie and it's all they can do not to blow their load in their pants.

FWIW Im new and had/have the same issue. For me its an adrenaline rush that has been the problem.  However I will say my best performance was with a provider that was not quite what I was expecting but still good looking and I think that took the nervous edge off. Also the more you do this the easier it just will be. Im still trying different things out to find out what works for me and what doesnt. I also think when I repeat things will go alot smoother since I wont have to ask any stupid questions and know exactly what she looks like. I still wish I took the plunge into this hobby sooner, after lurking on here for 2 years Ive seen alot of nice providers come and go and having VIP I realize all the fun I really missed out on.