Hi, I am new to all this. I have never done this before, and I'd very much like to give it a try. What should I do first? It seems like many require references, but I don't have any. Help Please? How do I find "newbie friendly"?

You found the PERFECT place to get started.  Reading about 20 pages worth of posts here will answer many of your questions including the ones about 'references' and 'newbie friendly'.

When you get tired of reading this forum you can jump over to the Self-Help manual which answers lots more questions.  You might even find yourself bouncing back and forth.

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Join p411 or date-check first to get started, and then go from there. "Newbie Friendly" does not mean "No information" friendly to most reputable providers. If you don't have references, you're going to have to provide personal info. to see many ladies on TER. I would never just see someone with absolutely NO information.