If he was serious he would have set up a meeting with a definate time and place.

I would think twice before giving up your time for free with these meetings.  You have to set a clear boundary for yourself or you will be taken advantage of, as happened here.

By the way, in your screening did you find another escort that gave him an OK, or did you just check his home address and work place?

Better luck next time.

Was agree to see him for free the first time.  Now he has decided to try and pursue more free time with you.  He is a time waster.

You don't need to see guys "socially" for free in order to get them to book appointments with you. Just be patient and the reviews will come.  This guy is probably never going to actually pay for an appointment with you and even if he does there is not guarantee that he will write a review.

was a "free" M&G.  I do exchange occasional friendly messages with a few but not all of my favorite friends.  I think it's ok but do not expect to monopolize the lady's time...  nor expect a immediate response.  This is NOT the dating game (civie).  He seems to be confused between wasting your time trying to get more freebies & trying to convert into a civie relationship.
Spend your energy in getting what ever you need to do to conduct your business.  When/if he contacts again, tell him you are available to book a meeting.
If he does not, you'll have your answer.
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I had to ask about this since it's never happened to me before and I thought maybe some of you gentleman out there would be nice enough to shed a little light on this for me.....

So a few days ago I had a possible new client ask me if i wouldn't mind having lunch with him as a preliminary meet and greet before scheduling with me. I'm very new and only have 1 review on another site so I agreed to do that after screening him to make him a bit more comfortable. So I meet him and it ends up being just a few beers but went very well in my eyes. He said he was very impressed with me and that he definitely knew he would want to see me again. After we leave the meeting, he e-mails me very shortly after letting me know that he found me wonderful and had decided that he wanted to focus all of his energy on me rather than seeing random BP girls on short notice since he felt I was what he had been searching for. I didn't respond right away since I was busy out with a friend and dealing with my personal life, etc. He send another e-mail letting me know that I am free to join him to have a drink at such and such place any time I would like to. Then another message about 20 minutes later saying that he knows I can see the messages he's sending me since he knows my e-mails go to my phone and that he hopes I haven't changed my mind about him.  I wrote back a bit later explaining that I do have a personal life and am not always able to respond right away to messages but that I did not change my mind about him and would like to see him for an encounter in the future. I said all he needed to do was let me know when he wanted to do that.
Then I get a message the next day saying that he still would like to see me later in the week but was busy at work and could not write a lengthy response at that time.  I told him that I would like that but could only do an outcall at this time as my apartment isn't ready and I don't have the resources to front a hotel room this week for just 1 client. I said I would look forward to his e-mail later.  He then wrote me that I should let him know when I was ready for an incall and that he would like to have a few drinks with me anytime because he found me very fascinating to speak with.
This seemed fine to me until I noticed that he had made a review on a traveling lady today saying he'd seen her yesterday. Should I be worried that I did something wrong to lose his interest or is this just an incident where he saw this other woman possibly because she was visiting and able to do more short notice incall and will possibly still schedule with me later? To you gents out there, is it really that big of a deal that I can't do an incall right now? And then there's the question of the drinks, is he saying he wants to see me off the clock to have a few beers or trying to?
I guess I just don't understand why he seemed like he freaked when I didn't answer him right away and then when I did, he seemed normal but then suddenly stopped talking to me and scheduled with someone else. Was he just saying he found me interesting but just wanted to see me for free in public or something? Normally it wouldn't really mattered to me but I just find it very unnecessary to want so much attention from someone only to drop it a day or so later and never even schedule but ask to see me for drinks, and it just seems like outcall rather than incall shouldn't really be that big of a deal, a lot of providers only do outcall. I know this probably happens all the time...guess it's just a first time for me.

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Thank you so much for the advice, I had a feeling on that one but was trying to be open-minded. He has reviews from other ladies and because he hadn't actually scheduled yet I didn't contact the other ladies yet. Obviously I should have. But you were definitely proven correct as he did send me a message not too long ago asking to talk. I said that I would love to chat during a time he allotted for himself with me by scheduling. I told him it was nothing personal but simply that I needed to treat all of my gentleman friends the same and with the same consideration. I then said that if he were to schedule with me we could talk about anything and everything he liked but that part of what my profession entails is being compensated for my time and companionship. I tried to be as nice as possible and asked that he understand that it had nothing to do with my enjoyment of his company or our time together. After that, he simply said thanks for the consideration and that he felt it wouldn't be working out.
Hey..I guess there's a first time for everything, right?

Again, thanks for the input guys. I have changed my website to reflect meet and greet rates, by the way.

so they don't have to get a room.  You could get a room for incall but it would be wise to see what hptel management feels about providers.  EVERY hotel probably has providers but not matter how mgt & staff feel, providers must be discreet.  A stream of men is not discreet.

If a lady gets a room JUST FOR a client, generally the lady will rent the room & he will reimburse in cash.  I have had ladies meet me in advance & she got the room while I waited.  

If you are new, you might offer a special & split the room cost.  I know you don't make as much as a fixed location but there is some safety in not having a semi-permanant location linked to you.  

In any event these are things you will want to know for your business plan.
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you at this time.  True, some guys need incall but he should have made that known up front.  

There is a slight chance he is hoping to meet you for drinks with the hope that your resistance might be "down" and you would be willing to give him a "sample".  Regardless of how attractive he might be, don't give it away.

You should have charged him for the first meeting. The next time a guy asks, mention that your rate is for time and companionship only, and you are more that happy to spend the time with him over dinner. If he persists with "preliminary", "get to know you first", etc., then say you are willing to give him a discount for a restaurant only date. If he mentions again "he would like to have a few drinks with me anytime because he found me very fascinating to speak with", say that your normal rates would apply for future encounters, even if they are for drinks only.

His initial response (numerous texts) shows he is too needy. Then again, how many of us are "normal". It may be that he hasn't scheduled a date because he wants incall.

"Should I be worried that I did something wrong to lose his interest" - You need a thicker skin in this business. A lot of guys may only see you once. Don't take it personally. Some guys just like to find new ladies, and after meeting you, go on to the next. A lot of guys waste your time, so don't worry that time wasters loose interest and stop wasting your time.

"Normally it wouldn't really mattered to me but I just find it very unnecessary to want so much attention from someone only to drop it a day or so later" - Normally you wouldn't get that much attention after one dinner. If someone is like that, feel relieved that he has gone on to stalk someone else.

"is it really that big of a deal that I can't do an incall right now?" - For me: Yes. But, I don't hold it against you. I just need the lady to provide incall. If you can't, then you can't. If you are brunette, and the guy wants a blond, then so be it. You can't provide incall right now. Those are your terms, and us guys deal with it.