I'm brand new, a true Newbie. I joined VIP and then P411. I read reviews, checked websites and message boards.  I chose a provider I found attractive and who is willing to see new people, with references (work info), and who has multiple great reviews. I sent her an email, with my info, from her website. She emails back the next day for more info, and says she wants to chat on the phone. I think great, she seems friendly. I send her the info she asks for (my picture from a website). Three days later I sent a follow-up email just checking in. Now a week has gone by and I have not received an email or phone call. Did I do something wrong? Did I not pass screening? I'm a nice guy and not unattractive. Do I wait, email one more time, or move along? Thanks!

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Most ladies don't ask for pictures, and a lot of guys wouldn't send one if they did ask, but if you are comfortable with that I guess that is ok. Everything else sounds like you did well. I would send one more follow up email, then move on.

There is always a chance that your last email to to her got lost in cyberspace, accidently deleted, sent to her spam folder or something. (or something happened to her) Hence the one follow up. Just in case she didn't get the last one. Any more than that, will make you sound needy or stalkerish. If she replies, you take it from there. If no reply, start communication with another lady.
good Luck.

you have done everything you could..now it is up to her..do not sit and wait..try other providers..put your picture on p411..saves a lot of time..make sure your profile is honest and complete..they check everything..send a request through p411 instead of e-mailing..most of all do not be disheartened..newbies have no track record..you have to make one..i had to jump through hoops to see one when i first started..there are plenty of providers out there who will see you..you just have to have patience i finding one..like the saying goes..if at first you dont succeed try try again..that is what being a newbie is all about..

Esp about putting your pic on P411.  I have mine on there and have never been asked for a picture.  Like was said above, many guys will totally refuse to send a picture. From what you describe, I don't think you have done anything wrong either.  However, for reasons known only to her, you may not have passed her screening, and you may never know why.  

You might try one more email and if you get no response, move on.  Lots of providers on P411 indicate if they are newbie friendly.  And, there are lots of providers out there, I'm sure you will find someone eventually.

Swim

I recently joined p411 and did not post a picture of myself.  How risky is posting one?  I sort of want to just so any provider I contact can see me.  Seems only fair.  But I sure wouldn't want anyone from my civvie life ever seeing it.  I guess only paid/registered providers have access to it?  Or do they have to request me to let them see it first?

Did you guys post a full face pic?  Or blurred out or something like providers sometimes do?

Thanks.

Be respectful during communication, don't be needy before the date, show up on time fresh as can be, make sure the envelop has the correct amount in it, don't over extend your time with the provider, observe all her rules during your date and you can hobby for years without a problem. I will NEVER post a picture or send a picture if requested.  And if you don't beleive me,  attend a local M&G. you won't beleive how your fellow hobbyists look.  Trust me.

And you have to give them that. You control who sees that photo as you control who gets your membership info by just giving it to them or sending them a appointment request, prescreening request, OK request, or message using P411.

on a site like P411, don't do it.  I'm single, no SO of any kind, so posting a pic was not a big deal for me.  Since very few but some real close friends know of my hobby activities, it's unlikely that anyone from my civvie life will see it.  Besides, they would not have any idea that a site like that even exists.  

In the pic, I'm wearing a ball cap and sunglasses, but they can get an idea of what I look like in general.  It's only a head shot too, not a full body pic.  I'm not real sure what the membership requirement is for someone to see my pic.  It's been on there awhile, and so far, no problems.

Swim

I know that because I prefer NOT to know what a guy looks like before seeing him (the less I know, the better - I like to start the date from ground zero each and every date so I can bring my A game - he remains the "mystery man" until the door opens). Maybe 10% of guys I've seen from P411 had a picture on their profile.

I think that's very odd that the provider asked for a picture period. You use their ID to match them to their profile on P411 when you meet in person, not a picture. Very odd.

As for the OPs question, she very likely asked some questions that he didn't answer "correctly" and he didn't pass her initial screening. Many providers will stop communication when they don't want to see someone rather than tell you. If you aren't getting replies after two communications (one reply and one follow up), time to move on like others mentioned.