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blakeastornyc See my TER Reviews 663 reads
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Sorry I am having difficulty navigating these threads which are new for me so don't mean to break up my response if I have. I do understand you are right can't have it both ways, I will certainly have to maybe take the risk because I believe I could meet quality people potentially should I have positive reviews. I have to consider all things and also decide that I know the woman I am if it should come up outside of the circle of people who know stand proud.

blakeastornyc1893 reads

I have been provider for about a year when I first started I was coming from the corporate world and after not finding a job started giving sensual massage. Then I was introduced to a provider who had been in the business for a long time and quiet famous. We actually moved away from each other because things were a little crazy I also felt she was a little jaded and it showed in her attitude towards men. I however do not have the same feeling and truly do enjoy this and made a promise that when I don't to get out as it is not fair to the men. I am finding now that there has been a big shift in clients and my gift, clients are looking for reviews and gifts have gone down probably because I don't have a lot of reviews I think 2 one by someone who has reviewed once. The gift I am ok with and flexible I know our country is a little hesitant of what they spend, the reviews I would be okay with (if they can not come back and haunt you later). I am a psychology major and one day hope to open a practice which that is another reason why I have enjoyed this it has actually made me a more active advocate for men. The other concern is my family who do not know that I am a provider.

So my question is how do I get reviewed more and keep them semi-private certainly should a gentlemen ever get graphic?

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swimtrekr752 reads

Not all hobbyists are members or even aware this site exists.  If they are, and you feel like they had a good time with you, ask if they would write a review.  You can also request that they not use explicit language in their reviews.  That is how I write them, the story gets told, and anyone who reads my review knows what went on during our time together.

Reviews are the lifeblood of this site.  They are what lets the guys know what kind of a provider you are and the type and quality of service you provide.  I also recommend that you get active on your regional board to get your name out there.  If guys see you posting, they may want to check you out.  If your board has picture theme days, participate in them.  You need to ask admin to link your reviews to your handle, so that every time you post, the link to them will show up.  This makes it much easier for guys to see your reviews, as compared to having to search for you.  If you have reviews which you say you do, ask admin for limited VIP membership, which will allow you to read your reviews in their entirety, but not those of other providers, that you would have to pay for.

When you get 3 reviews, you can ask for admission to the providers' only forum.  You can post an ad once every 7 days on your regional board, but you must have either a personal website or an ad that you can link to.

Swim

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blakeastornyc592 reads

I do appreciate your response I already pay for a VIP membership so at least that is one thing done. I also contacted admin this morning so hopefully I can do as you have suggested. As far as the service I provide I know is stellar and always updating my photos as a matter of fact have new ones going up friday which I took Tuesday. I will certainly always request that the review be kind and gentle, doesn't have to be known what we do behind close doors. I do have a personal website I have had it for a while. I am just now settled in my permanent home so I can focus on this a little better between school work and life. I do so appreciate your help and hope you have a wonderful day and thank you.

Best,
Blake

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blakeastornyc1590 reads

I am not at all conflicted just need to know the facts to keep things on a PG level in writing. I enjoy myself and I do that by making the concern of my partner's satisfaction at the top of my list. I feel if your partner is extremely satisfied then well you are even more. I am outside of the bed a lady, who respects those people in her life and don't know as well another personal goal which could be affected by something on the internet.

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ShakingtheSheets759 reads

On the one hand, you seem to want to be more active and obtain more reviews. Obviously, as you have discovered, the more credible reviews you have attached to your name, the more chance for increased business among hobbyists. On the other hand, you also want to maintain a level of privacy. You are concerned that your family might discover that you are a provider (a legitimate concern) and you are also concerned that the graphic nature of reviews may somehow come back and haunt you at a later date (perhaps hurting your psychology practice in the future?)

You can't have it both ways. If you want to be out there and be an active member of the TER community and attract more clients, who will in turn spread the good word of your sessions through reviews, then there is a 100% probability that a lot of these reviews will be graphic/detail specific in nature. You can't control what a hobbyist is going to say and how he is going to express it in a review. Most of the reviews are detailed in terms of the specific services of a provider. Its what most of us want to read as we make a decision on whom to see. Its impossible to have reviews, yet maintain a "semi- private" identity. The more reviews you have means that you have increased your client base. Thus, the more people who "know you" (in the hobbying sense) there is more chance that something negative could transpire (i.e. having your personal civilian world and your private provider world collide)

If you are not comfortable with the graphic nature of reviews, then do not seek them out in the first place. You are going to then have to try to attract potential clients, either through a personal website, or add or through participation on the TER boards, without the benefit of reviews. But, keep in mind, without reviews, many established hobbyists will not take the chance on seeing you. Reviews (especially those from established hobbyists) validate the provider and outline the session one can expect. Your call on what works best for you.

-- Modified on 11/17/2011 5:45:26 AM

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mrfisher440 reads

Of course, a new prospective client could be skeptical if they are genuine; but at least you would have total control over them that way.

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blakeastornyc664 reads

Sorry I am having difficulty navigating these threads which are new for me so don't mean to break up my response if I have. I do understand you are right can't have it both ways, I will certainly have to maybe take the risk because I believe I could meet quality people potentially should I have positive reviews. I have to consider all things and also decide that I know the woman I am if it should come up outside of the circle of people who know stand proud.

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inicky461022 reads

You just can't control them, and reviews that are not specific about what a session is like are of no use to your potential clients.  As for your privacy, I don't see why getting reviewed, in and of itself, compromises you in any way.  If you have taken measures to ensure your privacy, your provider identity should never be compromised.  If, in the unlikely (and unlucky) event you are "outed," the people you know will become aware of what you do and I doubt any reviews of you would make things much worse.
I look forward to seeing your new pix, and saw your post on the NY Board.  I'll be in NY and I do review, so if I like your pix perhaps we can get together over the holidays.  Best of luck to you!

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blakeastornyc709 reads

Well today I have thought long and hard about every thing my family lives far away in the south so good there, and friends I have been honest with anyway. So I am ok with reviews and pretty confident they are going to be fine because I treat people VERY WELL! Pictures soon just picked up the disk now have to go through them

Related Link: http://www.blakeimpeccablevip.com

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keystonekid819 reads

$50 or $100 off your regular rate.  This might help generate business from TER members.  After the session is almost over, you can ask him to write a review for you.  The one thing you can NOT do is offer a discount for a guy to write a review.  This is considered unethical.

I have said that if an attractive provider offers quality service for a reasonable rate, she will do well.

Good luck to you.

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TrulyMsMocha917 reads

..... ladies usually offer special rates to members of review sites because they want reviews.... kind implied with that "special" discount. So IMO not MORE unethical to give the discount before the appt just to ask for a review when it's done....since most guys know what that special discount is all about/for.

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