I know what we can't say in black and white, but what can we say in "code" via e-mail or text?

like, is it ok to say in e-mail...  "since we are meeting in public, I will have a greeting card for you with a contribution, donation, consideration in it for you"

is it ok to say  "I'm fine with your consideration for that time frame

No need to mention the card beforehand by email. If you read her website in full, and she doesn't mention how to give her the gift, just place the card on the table. She'll get the hint. Be discreet and you'll be fine.

If you both agree to a date, it is understood you are ok with her rate, so no need to mention that either

...but not handing a card to your date in public looks odd.

   If you are meeting in public, I would suggest a gift bag, or FedEx envelope.  Nothing says legit business like FedEx.  

Hugs and Kisses,
Kelly

this is challenging, can't you guys tell I'm a chatty kinda guy

Like Jack said, no codes either. She knows why your there, you know her rate and showing up tells her you agree there's no reason to talk about any of it. Act like it's not a business transaction and enjoy your date.

asking a girl for Greek...  most girls have to prepare in advance but asking "hey girl let's do anal sex"  would be inappropriate. However,  I haven't had problems asking "can we travel to Greece?"  

another code is to refer to $ as donations, gift, or in some cases "roses or lollipops"  lol   don't refer to it as money.  

another girl referred to her butt as dierre but prolly best to avoid explicit talk like this.  some girls are OK with a little degree of explicit talk if you are verified and have some p411 OKs,  or if you've seen her already. Sometimes I had to clarify if a new girl was OK with BBBJ instead of CBJ cuz she had no TER profile at the time for me to make any decisions to see her or not. Sometimes I'm not even sure if the new girl might be LE. lol I wouldn't recommend this approach for guys who aren't adventurous.

I just had an email come in that applies to this?  Email was from someone I didn't know. 1st time he sent to me, went like this:
Hi want to get together with you. Only do this a couple times a year so I don't have references.  I know I can't say certain things but my porn is getting old and want to get it on with you gfe style. Would be great if you have a friend because I haven't seen two girls go at it since 2003. I am so horny but know I have to watch my words.  Let me know how much of a donation for just you and me. If not too much we can talk about a friend.  End of email. (I said no thanks because #1 he was insinuating sex. #2 no reference.  #3 he mentioned donation=money.  Trifecta equals silver bracelets and a car ride.  Too explicit, too risky.

understood.  guy was stupid or le..

I have wondered about code words also. In my experience, there aren't any universal code words.  Sometimes talking around a topic can add more confusion.


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Once someone is screened I am ok with most topics but initially have to be careful.  No sex or money talk even in code initially.  Reviews and website hopefully will answer most questions. If role playing or greek etc better to let her check references first.

haha...good post and heck yea, just lay the money down. We'll find it..guarantee it lol