him because he had people stopping over. That is extremely unsafe. Anyone with a little common sense knows not to do that. You could have had a dangerous situation happen.
Guys that call us, they never, ever want anyone they know to catch them or know. They don't talk on phone when answering door either (if that ever comes up for you).
Always send drunks away. Not much good happens when they show up with a cold ass cock. Didn't you at least speak on the phone prior to meeting him? A big reason why "I" speak on the phone an hour or less before. You can hear if they are drunk. Some guys don't think at all. They do dumb things when drunk.
As far as guys not reading things, it happens a lot. I am not a stickler on it as most are. It does cause headaches though if he thinks something is a go, when it isn't. I have my own way of clarifying. The best you can do is say to them again (anyone who contacts you) to please read your website etc. That it is important to make sure you are a match.
His friend recommended you so I get him not reading your site "because" he assumes he will get the same as a friend. It is understandable but not a good way to go. Always tell them to read your likes and dislikes for a proper match. At that point, you can't do much if he is still a derp and doesn't do it.
If they hand you the money, just tell them to put it aside. Even some guys who have been around forever still do this.
The big issues with having a website is that you never want a whole bunch of don'ts because they feel you are negative or picky. Just a helpful piece of advice.
You can't prevent guys who don't read from contacting you but there are ways to deal with it (and before hand vs well now they are here). Also, some guys lie and say they didn't read it when they did. They seem to think they can talk you into things in person.