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Re:first timer

You seem way to tense ... just relax and go slow ... and you'll be fine ... if anything at all feels out of place ... then stop .. but you should be fine if you follow our suggestions ...

As the boys have said:  Pick well reviewed ladies until you get the hang of it.

If you really want to go crazy you can check out the reviewers of your choices.  (Check their other reviews to see if they've seen a few ladies...)

If a lady only has one or two reviews and both those reviewers only have one or two reviews posted and THOSE ladies have no references or no website....then a red flag should go up.  sounds like a lot of work but that's only if your lust is making you consider a woman with only one review.  Get control of your lust!  What are you?  an animal?

A cop really can't do anything to you until you break the law.
Which is paying for sex or murdering your mother and keeping her in the cellar.

So you can't get in trouble until you talk about money or talk about sex.  So never do it.  Until, perhaps, you're actually having sex and then you could get away with talking about it.

nervous, too. But other than one rip-off, I've never had any problems.

Spinner, Jockypants and Stilltryin all had good advice for you about picking someone based on reviews and reviewers.

If you are uneasy about handing out private info, don't pick a lady whose site states that she needs all kinds of info. And if you call one and she begins to ask for info that you're not comfortable disclosing, just tell her the truth - tell her you're not comfortable giving that info and see if she'll still see you. If not, don't get upset, just pick someone else.

Make sure her site tells what her expected donation is - then you won't have to ask or discuss it in any way.  If she comes to your home, or to your hotel room, have the donation (in large bills to make counting easier for her) in a white envelope in plain sight. Don't mention it at all. Don't discuss money or services for payment.  Just don't talk about it at all. If she reaches for the envelope and looks at you questioningly, just nod your head.  Or if she asks, "Is this for me?"  Just nod your head or say, "Yes."  Don't discuss amounts or any such thing.  

If she gets all verbal up front and wants to discuss money for specific acts and trying to dig agreements out of you - I'd be alarmed.  I'd say plainly, as it might be recorded, "I don't know what you're talking about. There's some misunderstanding here. I'm just on a date. That's all. You better leave." That's if it's your room. If it's her room, you'd better get out of there.  Nothing remotely like this has ever happened to me, so you really don't need to be too tense.  The fact is legitimate providers will not want to discuss this either since you might be LE.  If you insist on discussing it, they'll probably think you are LE and leave.  If you act sensibly, they'll relax sooner, too. It's all common sense.

One other thing; it's nice to sit down and have a bit of chit chat on the first meeting. Offer the lady some refreshments to start this.  If she doesn't seem to be interested in something to drink or chit chat, don't worry about it - just go with the flow. If you have a chat, get to know each other a bit without discussing sensitive things as mentioned above.

When she's ready to move on, she may excuse herself to the bathroom and say something to the effect that you should make yourself comfortable. This is when you should disrobe. When she comes out, seeing you undressed will ease her mind that you are not LE.

Alternately, if she's comfortable with you, instead of going to the bathroom, she may just get up and disrobe.

On repeat visits everything is much more relaxed.

Enjoy yourself!

Re:first timer

try looking under massage parlors in the review section ... you may also want to try the orange county board and ask your question there ......