So, I am in a situation where I made initial contact with the provider a few days ago. She agreed to meet and we have set a time.
However, over the last 48 hrs I tried to contact her through P411 but got no reply. Since it is on P411, I do see she has been online multiple times after I sent the messages.
So I am assuming she is ignoring contact and doesn't want to see me anymore? Should I still prepare to meet her for appointment in case she actually contacts me last minute?
your appointment is set..do not worry..i have no idea why you are still trying to contact her..do not be a pest..she will give you her location at the right time if the appointment is set..relax..
Posted By: dualthought
So, I am in a situation where I made initial contact with the provider a few days ago. She agreed to meet and we have set a time.
However, over the last 48 hrs I tried to contact her through P411 but got no reply. Since it is on P411, I do see she has been online multiple times after I sent the messages.
So I am assuming she is ignoring contact and doesn't want to see me anymore? Should I still prepare to meet her for appointment in case she actually contacts me last minute?
If it's tomorrow I would be a little concerned. If it's in a few days or more it sounds like you may be worried over nothing. It's hard to say without a few more details.
The appointment was less than 24 hours away when I posted. The main thing I was concerned about was being ready for appointment (like having cash ready, leaving my schedule open, etc).
Turns I did get a message finally about 3 or 4 hrs before the Apt. I honestly, didn't think she would contact me or go through appointment. Looks like I need to be more aware of contact silence that may occur till right before Apt.
Posted By: Bostonguy57
If it's tomorrow I would be a little concerned. If it's in a few days or more it sounds like you may be worried over nothing. It's hard to say without a few more details.
You should start worrying if it's a few hours before the agreed appointment time and date.
Most of the time providers are good at getting back if they have to cancel, although I've read some horror stories of canceling the last minute.
Don't spam her though!
or something to that effect so she will know you are just trying to confirm and not just trying to chat.
I treat every business partner as aresponsible adult until proven otherwise. If we have a firm day, time, and location I assume she will be there unless she contacts me to say otherwise. She can count on me to be there on time unless I contact her in advance. I don't buy this "you didn't confirm 50 times so I assumed you weren't coming". It's bad customer relations.
Stating your agreed meeting time.
If no response, message her that since you've gotten no confirmation, the meeting is off... you don't know where to even go.
You are new & don't know her plan yet... but I would touch base at 24 hours... getting back a few hours before is getting close in my book.
I have had it go the other way, where she didn't reply. She never did get back to me & I lost an opportunity. Annoying.
What you have here is a Last-Minute Hooker trying to pretend to be an Organized Provider. The LMH was willing to take your appointment several days in advance, but then isn't willing to do the necessary work to hold that appointment. She should know to confirm at some point.
What likely happened is she doubled-booked your time slot, and now has gone silent on you in favor of the other guy.
Send a cancel email, ignore any crap that comes from her (she will try to make it your fault), and move on to the next one.
Posted By: dualthought
The appointment was less than 24 hours away when I posted. The main thing I was concerned about was being ready for appointment (like having cash ready, leaving my schedule open, etc).
Nothing wrong with the above--you tried confirming an appt that was the next day. And she ignored your P411 confirmation msg, even though she had logged onto the site. Providers like to remind us that they have a personal life. Well, so do you, as you pointed out very well: you needed confirmation in order to keep your schedule open, to have cash ready, etc. I would've cancelled on her the morning of the appt & ignored anything she sent afterwards.
You shouldn't be so eager for an appt. If a provider keeps you in the dark, cancel on her. That will clear things up quickly. I'm sure you'll get a speedy reply when she sees that. I kind of enjoy that cold blast. Cancel on her and bank that money. She may contact you next time--many do, because they don't like the sting of lost cash. If she asks for Round #2, I'm sure she'll reply promptly when you ask for confirmation. The sex trade can be a cut-throat business, make no mistake about that. --z
...do this and i think it's disrespectful of hobbyists' time and it treats appointments as being very ad hoc-y instead of being well thought out abd special.....some ladies are great about contact and some providers are to disorganized to do anything other than last minute
when we finaize details, i always like to give a heads up regarding availability of contact - for example, if i am heading over after work, i'll say i can't check P411 while at work so here is my cell, or i'll be accessible via e-mail until such and such time, which is when i'll need to leave to get there on time
it kind of varies.....you can get a good indication of how responsive a provider will be by their website imho.....well thought out websites with good grammar tend to indicate responsive providers who will not wait until 2 hours before your appointment to give you details.....providers whose sites are minimalist with mostly photos tend to be more last minute-y
If he does not do that, I just move on. I would just send her one last email saying, "Sorry, but I have not been able to reach you and will make other plans if I do not hear from you by such and such day and time." You can't be expected to wait around on people to respond, but if she had an emergency the appt. might be called off anyway.
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