With TER and P411, you are either on the list or you are not....you either get an OK or you dont.  Attractiveness and intimate details rank very low in the type of info that interest us because for one its subjective, and for two has little to do with whether or not we will accept a date.

The most important, and what getting whitelisted / OK'd means, is that a guy is safe amd that he's respectful (and good hygiene falls under respect)

But definitely, we are not trading notes critiquing anyones looks or what is done in our private time.  That is far more important to our dates of us, than it is for us of them  As long as a guy is a great date, even when getting a reference, that sums up what a lady will say...that he was a great date.  Thats all we need to know.

Every so often, if I know who the lady is Im giving the reference to, and in return, additional info may be shared, like..he loves red so if you wear something in red he will love that...or he doesnt drink at all, if you offer something make it water or soda. Etc...