we are human being only , you need to be in agreement with your mind,you need to be mature and be responsible of your acts. I dont join TER to feel guilty.....if you do gp to church.

If you were married when starting this hobby.... Im just wondering after your first time seeing a provider how guilty did you feel when u got home?  I'm trying to gauge how I can expect to feel in a few days ..thanks .

I hobbied with escorts, AMP girls and street walkers for the last 20 years of my marriage.  The only time I ever felt guilty was when, early-on, I spent money that I couldn't really afford to spend...

Ok let me rephrase ...guilty about possibly bringing something home ...not guilty about seeing a provider.

is determined by, why you are doing it.
I think their are, right and wrong reasons, for stepping outside the marriage. IMHO

Your right reasons may be someone elses wrong reasons, and your wrong reasons may be someone elses right reasons.

Lets not get on the "holier than thou" kick on these boards , it is totally unwarrented and not necessary!!

If you stick with a well reviewed provider, play it safe - use condoms for sex, you should not be bringing anything home to share with the SO.

He asked about guilt, i said what i had to say, and that's, that.
I never said i was a better man than he is.
You are correct though, his right and wrong reasons may be different than mine.
Is guilt a built in alarm saying, i shouldn't do this??  I don't know?

Thanks for your response , that is exactly what I was wondering...

That's what safe sex is all about. That being said, "Guilt" sounds like a reaction to something that has already happened. Worrying about it is what will help you to act responsibly.  Remember, there are NO guarantees in life.  Even if you're careful you could contract an STD, get busted or get found-out by your spouse.  P4P is always risk vs. reward.

Because I knew my sin before God would be paid by my eternal, agonizing incineration in the Lake of Fire.

(PrurientlyPuritanical)

   Ooops! I was channeling another of my fallen aliases again.

Well said I get it.  Perhaps this isn't for me ..I don't want to put my SO at risk from my actions.  Thanks all.

hmmm, one can only wonder!
Let's do hope, it is not true.

I always kind of think of it as a service to keep a marriage that may be lacking in one area, but perfect in others stay strong
xo
Lo

that I did not start seeing ladies sooner.  My wife cut me off and I did not have sex for over a year! Being the nice guy that I am, I gave her one year to put out (sorry, it's crude I know) and she did not change her mind.  At the present time I am fine with a no sex marriage... as long as I can get my needs met other places.  Besides, it is way more fun fucking a different, beautiful, skilled woman each week than putting up with a half-hearted fuck from the mrs. That was a little over 1 year ago and I am trying really hard to make up for lost time.  My advice is go for it and never look back.

I never once felt guilty, but then again I hadn't been intimate with my wife in quite awhile.  I could NEVER do this if her and I were still sexually active (with each other).  That's just me.  I couldn't.

But thanks to her, I don't have to worry about that ever again.  I'm done with her and lovin' hobbying.  All these beautiful freakin' women with no hangups about SEX!!!  I love them ALL!

Some say, their is no right or wrong reasons.....well dtero, that is a RIGHT reason.
If anyone should feel guilt, it should be your wife. IMHO

I gave my situation much thought before seeking a provider. Weighing all the pros and cons and what I hoped to fulfill as a hobbiest allowed me to be guilt free afterwards. There's nothing wrong with feeling "guilty" or having some sort of remorse, but if you are consumed by it then it may be best to re-evaluate your situation and quit while you still have somewhere to call home.

I think as a man, you are safer with a 'provider' that you know and trust than you are going other routes. Women do become less intimate after marriage and kids and men STILL have the same needs.  In the end it really isn't fair.  But as far as "bringing something home".. on a heart to heart... your'e better off with a provider you know and trust.
xo
Lo

Wow ...thats why I started looking its been a year and 2 months for me .it sucks.

Go for it then!!
Your doing nothing wrong...the wife is!!

Naomi, I completely agree.  For the man AND the provider!